I'm reading Tony Robbins book Awaken the Giant Within (definitely a good read, i know rsd draws on it quite a bit) and one of the messages is about focusing no more than 10% of your energy on the problem and 90% on the solution..

I think this is a powerful frame of mind and combined with his ten day challenge of re framing negative thoughts into positive it can really put things into perspective.

Have one itis? Can't get over a chick that you know will not work out long term? Problem identified. What is the solution? Meet other women. Focus on that. Put your problems aside, there's no time for that gentlemen. Can't approach? Problem. Solution? Start approaching. Who cares if it's terrible. Gain reference experience and move on. We're all (mostly) men here. We all know what we want, go out there and get it! The time is now, no more focusing on problems.. Only solutions!