Hey guys! My background on this subreddit. I casually surf. I use this subreddit as motivation for seduction techniques and motivation etc. on moving forward on my path towards love and acceptance. The following is my field report for 4th of July in Boston area.
9 - got drinks with friends, all guy friends. I got in the mode to game, just not in the right environment, but according to /seddit every environment is the right game, point being I was setting up the rest of the night.
10- I went to the river to find the best position/place for myself/friends to view fireworks. Saw a group of (supposedly single) girls beside us. Wanted to hit them up/approach when brother/leader of my group led us into streets for no reason whatsoever to approach girls who were leaving. Logic?? So Girls quickly disperse we follow the crowd and end up in a bar down the street to meet up with a different friend's girlfriend. when we get there, that's when I begin my nightgame.
My field report: I first wait in line outside of the bar, waiting for my older brother to meet us up/decide to ditch bar and join lesbian party?? In the end we decide to go to the bar because the other option falls through.
20 approaches total:
1-3:
I approach a group of girls with no relation, start by asking where they go to college/local bar scene. They respond positively and we maintain casual bar conversation. Her name is Sam, her friend is Asian and has the name of Severn or something similar (I forget....) nonetheless super cute and hit me up numberable. I maintain casual convo. After flirting my guy friend comes along and I introduce my bf "Mark" to the girls and meet a girl who works there who is also friends with them "Lauren." I talk to Lauren directly giving my friend Mark a direct open to the two single girls. After my conversaition with Lauren dies due to her being a boring frat type girl working at a bar and my friend Mark not hitting it off, i go back to talking with the two original girls. After they get boring I meet another one of their friends and make a positive impression and they float in the bar. I transition towards some other girls who they are connected with in the bar who go to the same college but are situated in the booth section.
4-5:
I flirt with an open blonde chick and move towards a cuter girl with a smile to die for in the booth. After flirting and exchanging information with her in the booth, I ask her on a casual date on an open mic night. She asks where I'm getting paid to do stand up and I say I've only been doing open mic's. She gives me the "I have a boyfriend" line who is also a comedian, but shows interest in going to an open mic with me. and I'm like okay cool I think you're really cute, etc. and the girl next to her whom I flirted with decides to leave with the other girls who I flirted with and she basically has to brush me off from the mass exodus of flirtatious periods of girl leavings etc. So the first five girls peace out, alls good in my book, no losses taken!!
I go back to my initial friend group, a group of five friends chilling in their own section near the entrance of the bar. I hang with them and talk to my friend about Opening more girls. He tells me to approach two girls in the corner of the bar by themselves. I say "fuuu yea!! and go over!
I meet two single lesbians/relationship?? I take a pic with one of them and send it to the girl, she doesn't respond, my brother flirts with the other one and all seems to be going well. I ask her if she's uncomfortable, she says she's crowded and I back off and she wants "girl talk" with her other bar buddy. What does the girl talk ensue? I asked my friend's gf and she said it was like the deciding factor or something. IDK.
Instead of reciprocating the response from the cute LA girl who we had a thing going on with....
I flirted with a new girl randomly near my group of friends. It just so happens we have a mutual friend in my home town whom we hung out in high school with. But neither of us have talked to us in two years/ for me in high school so like 4... Either way it was a total connect. But she told me she had a boyfriend. -Second "I have a boyfriend" line of the night. What gives?
After that she gave me her number and I tested her something funny only for me to receive a weird text error message on my phone from the text.
I went back to the first girl who I was flirting with. I come up and theres the same bro who was sitting next to her who is now defending her from me. Being all like "Hay what do you think you're doing. Leave us alone. ETc. So I say to the girl "Have a good night. I hope you have a great night with this bro. etc. and I leave." I have so many opportunities in this bar I'm not dependent on this girl, just reciprocating the attraction I had from earlier.
In retrospect: I should've said how was the conversatino with "......" which was the name of her friend. then said hey... want to talk somewhere quieter, and if the attraction prevailed we would've? Either way not sure what the shittest was here, but decided not worth the time to pursue someone whose initial attraction was point but not willing to recognize it and move forward.
I made friend with two guys from joking gay pickup lines which led to being friends with them because I'm actually straight but comfortable if you get my drift. So I make some new friends and I tell them I will approach anyone in the bar. They pick out two cute girls next to them. I approach them and quickly discover it's the two girls who I already approached with the mutual friend, I am quickly dismissed from the girl's friend, a "bro," the bro's random girl sitting next to him, but not the girl herself. I end up asking the girl if she want's to meet in NYC because she told me from an earlier conversation. She say's NO. I am like thank you for being forthright and telling me so I can move on. I proceed by leaving her alone for the rest of the night.
I meet up back with my friends whom I arrived with and the newformed friends and they tell me to approach new girls. I try to approach two girls surrounded by guys but can't find a way in. So instead I sit down in a seat by asking the bro beside it if it is empty. He say's yes, so I sit down next to an asian guy. I befriend him and we talk about drinks and the girls of the night. I get his name and he says to approach the girls to my left. I am drunk by this point and am just like "okay!" so I try to approach a girl surrounded by like 5 guys. I move around the guys and awkwardly look in the girls eyes and say "hey do you think I am awkward?" she laughs and says she is awkward as well. We bond over our awkwardness and the guys surrounding her give me death glares etc. I don't give a fuu and continue to hit on her and try to get to know her. She has the cutest smile tying the other girl from before with the boyfriend and I am totally in "awwwww." I end up drunkenly ranting and being timidly kind/sincere. My friend from earlier Mark comes around and tries to but in, he also encouraged me to talk to the cute girl. So I end up going to search for the blonde girl who I had a thing for earlier and she's gone with her lesbian lover, maybe because of my brother or the bro, who knows? maybe its my fault no1` will evrrr know hahaha.
I go back to the guys who initially thought I was a gay bro jokingly hitting on them but actually straight deceiving in all of the night. They tell me to hit on a group of eight girls who are sitting in a nearby booth at the bar. I say hell yea! I take the only empty seat and immediately get every girls attention. I show them a lime and ask if any of them want to suck it. Before they respond I start sucking the lime and say it's really tasty. I ask each girl one by one and each of them reject me one by one from the table. Overall, I get a rejection from everyone at the table. I end up talking to a hb5 girl beside me at the table and the hb8/9's leave the table. The hb5 has no choice but to follow but I learned the lesson that I need better openers if I'm going to approach a group of girls. I sit beside an hb7 with a random guy and I flirt with her while the guy blocks me with negative remarks, no reciprocation and deciding to follow the hb9's out.
I get their names and say it was great to meet them and say goodbye. I follow this by flirting with two girls and introducing them with two girls I had randomly met earlier in the bar.
I continue to talk to some random Japanese guy who introduces me to a Japanese girl which doesn't go well even though I'm into anime and Japanese culture. The girls and guys of this group end up leaving soon after.
I went back to my original group of friends, made private jokes, and pickup jokes, etc. all was good! I met my bf's girlfriend for the first time. Strange occurrences overall.
The bar was closing, I tried wrapping up by talking with some of the guys I had met in the bar and discussing with them how I had never been the the bars in this area before and how I wanted to seduce women etc.
They laughed and they could tell I was a genuine person and I handed out my number to some of these ppl.
I saw a group of girls leaving the bar that I had approached earlier I followed them and told them that I was going to meet my friends outside the bar and would walk out with them. Outside the bar, we flirted together for about 10-20 minutes exchanged numbers, instagrams, etc. All was well. Some of the guys I had met in the bar were very impressed with my approaches etc. and I think the girls overheard my seddit night and withheld attraction but either way made some decent sarging connections and got two number from the over twenty girls I approached. One being a girl who has a boyfriend who then told me she didn't want to see me again, the other being a girl who I took a picture with, texted, then later on left because a bro was telling me to tell off, so I did.
Seddit, give me advice and criticism. This is my first field report, I've ready many over the past year and half and I know this doesn't match the language or wording that is normally posted, but this is what I experienced and I am trying to improve. I am currently living with my parents and working full time so I haven't spent the time to do field reports and gain criticisms.
Overall, I want advice on how to lock numbers and gain personal relationships to move forward. I want to understand people an learn from my experiences.
Overall, I approached more than 20 girls in a single bar in the course of over three hours. This is what I learned. I think it all based on context and the person. In certain context's such as the eight girl approach, each rejected me because I had no value to them. Whereas in an approach where two girls were alone and wanted drinks, they encouraged flirting etc. Some situations I had to work through new found guy friends to even get the girl's name or find out what drink they were having.
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