I initially just wanted to write about how the first text after you got her number needs to look like, but there was actually a cool lead up and we haven't had that many gym pickups I think, so I thought I'd make it into a FR, so here it goes:

I was doing my workout in the gym, where I spotted a really nice HB 9. She was a sporty blonde, a bit petite with a lovely face. I didn't chat her up when I saw her first, sometimes I'm not that quick when I'm not in the pickup mindset and I easily forget it when I'm doing my workout. I actually committed some rookie mistakes by lingering around a bit, pretty close to her and I'm sure she noticed me.

Then I actually thought that would be a good exercise. Screwing everything up pre-opener by looking at her and shying away all the time, walking past her "coincidentally", so that when I finally chat her up, she thinks I'm a total AFC. Then I would need to turn the whole thing around with my awesome game. But that's for another post. :)

So after having walked past her about 4 times and looking at her, I chatted her up on my way out of the gym. She was on a stepper and quite sweaty. I ranked her as a HB9, because I normally prefer girls athletic, but interestingly despite being sweaty and tired, she had such a pretty face and lovely eyes. See conversation here:

Tunga: Hi. :)

HB9: Hi

Tunga: Who are you?

HB9: Eh, I'm HB9 [looks a bit sceptic]

Tunga: I'm TunaLunga, hey do you know me, because you were looking at me all the time? [I had already realised out when I changed before talking to her, that I need to make up for my AFC behaviour. So in the dressing room, I planned that I would say if she knew me, because she was looking over all the time, so that I'm the prize and she was looking. :)]

HB9: No, I don't think so

[smiles]

Tunga: Oh ok, but are you a freshman then, because I haven't seen you here.

HB9: Oh I'm here all the time, like 6 times a week!

Tunga: Oh really, you are nuts who goes to the gym 6 times a week, are you a fitness freak or what

[small disqualifier and I look a bit astonished]

HB9: Well I need it to get some balance to my work and studies

[and I'm in]

Tunga: Oh cool what do you study

[This goes on a bit. If it's about education I'm very good at that having spent quite a long time in academia. At one point I say with a sceptic look on my face]

Tunga: Are you Polish?

[asking for nationality is always a good line, always fun and even better if you're good at guessing and makes the girls curious]

HB9: Lol no I'm not, but everybody keeps saying that!!

Tunga: Oh, I was just wondering because Polish women are said to be pretty you know ;)

[showed my intentions, but I had a big smile on my face, so she knew I wasn't an AFC and that I was joking around]

Tunga: Hey, we should meet up some time, shouldn't we?

HB9: Mhhhm.. I don't know mayyb...

[Before she even said anything, I cut her off and said]

Tunga: Oh cool yes? Then put in your number here.

[People never know what they want, so you have to make the choice for them. Same goes for kissing. The chances of a a girl saying yes to your advances, because she knows she likes you are maybe 25%. The chances of her saying no, because she knows she doesn't like you are maybe also around 25%. So there are 50%, where she doesn't know if she likes you/wants to kiss you/would get on a date with you. If you then always make the choice for her by going in for the kiss/giving her your phone to put in the number when she says she doesn't know, you chance for a successful approach instantly increases from 25% to 75%.]

Ok so I got the number, but what to write as the first text and should I wait for 3 days? You only have to wait for 3 days, if you don't know how else to show her non-neediness or in other words, if you suck at text game.

So when I got home and had taken a shower, I wrote her:

So, did you defeat the stepper in the end with your Polish aura. :)

It's a stupid text, but, it doesn't actually matter much if it's a good text or not as long as it contains call back humour. You can maybe leave out the smiley or put in an exclamation mark, depends on how the vibe of you both was.So what does this text contain, it mainly consists of 3 elements.

  1. Call back humour that she's polish
  2. Call back humour that she was on a stepper
  3. It was not a question, I made a statement with a full stop.

She texted back 2 days later saying that she's been so busy with her Polish mafia stuff going on, that's why it took her so long and we've been texting since.

So, very important, CALL BACK HUMOUR. Don't ask her anything where she has to commit in the first text. You first text has the highest flake rate (she doesn't reply), probably 50%. For that reason, use call back humour to get her to text you back on a silly question that doesn't even have to do anything with the real world. It needs to be a low investment text. That makes it easy for her to text back and also to joke around a bit. People like to talk a bit of nonsense.

In the same vein, you need to be able to create call back humour before you leave, otherwise you will have a hard time getting her on a date through texts. For that reason, you need to find out about her, some special things, you need to listen, you need to tease her a bit, so that you can keep teasing her a bit via texts.