I'm heading off to college in a few days and I want to start off on the right foot. At our orientation a few weeks ago, I made a few friends, but I struggled to connect with the girls. I think this problem comes from the fact that most of my friends are from mutual friends, so I rarely encounter a situation where initially there is no common ground. The orientation highlighted the fact that I need to get more comfortable with talking to new girls. I've read inner games stuff, but I think I need to actually get out there and get experience.

I decided that I would try cold approaching to break out of my comfort zone and to establish more confidence. Plus, practice makes perfect.

Today I was near the mall and decided that I would make my first step towards improvement. Just entering the mall, I started to become anxious. I decided that I would only do one approach to try and keep cool.

I spotted two girls about my age walking on the other side of the walk way. I opened the taller girl of the two, with the basic line "I thought you were cute...." She seemed a bit surprised but everything was alright. I got both the girls' names and introduced myself. I made a little small talk and started walking with them. Probably a minute later the conversation almost dead ended. I was about to eject but the other girl says "well aren't you going to get her number?" So I hand the taller girl my phone and she puts it in. I tell them to have a nice day and I leave.

It wasn't THAT bad, but internally it didn't feel that good. I know I didn't do the best that I could have, and things felt a bit awkward. After I calmed down, things didn't seem too bad and I felt a lot more relaxed. I feel like another approach would go a bit smoother.

I entered the set not expecting anything and ended up with a number. Should I have gotten the other girl's number too? I don't plan on contacting either of them since I'm leaving so soon.

Things I think I need to work on would be conversation threading and building more comfort and most importantly relaxing and not worrying.

Sorry if this is a mess or hard to read, just thought I'd share for those who are interested or thinking about approaching.