Women like guys who live in their own reality.

This is why the traditional way that most men date tends to be slow and inconsistent. When you develop feelings for one specific girl and you need her to like you, and you try to get her by taking her to the perfect place or saying the perfect thing, you find yourself in her reality and she can sense it.

To get the girl, you have to bring her into your world. Take her on a wild ride into your reality. Take her to places that you enjoy, talk about things that you like talking about, and ask her questions that satisfy your curiosity.

When you tell a story or joke around, do so to amuse yourself and because you enjoy creating a positive vibe around you. Assert your reality. Make what you’re saying cool by believing in it. Instead of being like every other guy, interact with women through your frame and draw them in.

Its fine to feel attraction for a woman or to want a woman, but your sense of who you are cannot be dependent on her response to you or anyone else’s response. You have to be stronger than that and people have to feel it from you.

You can’t approach a woman thinking about how to make her respond to you and how to feel depending on her reaction. The second she senses that you’re acting in reaction to her or conveying a personality that it not your own she loses attraction. As long as you’re in your own reality, however, her attention will stay fixated on you and she’ll go along for the ride.

Attraction is not a conscious response. For her to feel attracted to a man in his own reality isn’t necessarily something that she understands or even logically wants, but something that she emotionally responds to.

You must have conviction that your identity is cool, and draw her to react by adapting herself around your identity so that she’s excited by your validation and not the other way around.

She has to sense that gap between how you’re acting and how most other guys act. As a guy who is already chosen by women, you don’t have that anxious thought process of getting any particular girl’s reaction because it wouldn’t make sense.

On a core identity level, you must identify yourself as the guy who is selected by women and chooses amongst them, not as the guy who is desperate to be chosen.

As we said, in any social interaction there is always one person reacting more to the other, and when you don’t react to people’s acceptance they’ll usually feel a higher value from you and begin to react themselves.

When you interact with women, you assert your identity by the way you act – by your behaviour patterns and all of the subtleties that convey your complete confidence in who you are.