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[–]puaCurveBall 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've seen plenty of boys (well into their 40's) use seduction material just fine.
I think that learning to be an adult will help you get fellow adult women, but it won't stop you from getting women stuck at a lower place of maturity.
It seems you are projecting something, and I don't know what, onto the term "manhood".
What exactly separates a boy from a man? What makes a man?
Until you can answer these questions, it seems like this is merely mental masturbation.
[–]dmightx1 point 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I am new to "projections" and would love to learn more. Care to share with me?
I have very little understanding of projection but I feel I may be projecting a genuine, confident, and mature man. Someone who is able to care for others but also deeply cares for himself. I think its someone who can strive to improve himself always.
I'm trying to figure out what my goal is which is why I hope others can offer guidance by their experiences. I also would like not to mislead myself. I feel, I can take a path that is harmful to me and would like to prevent that.
I have fooled myself once before and would like to prevent that again if possible.
[–]Mr-E-Relevont 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
rather than becoming a man, focus on being the man you are. be self reliant, act rather than talk and then own the consequences of your actions. make the positives for yourself, stand square and let your nuts hang.
[–]dmightx1 points 12 years ago* [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I think I fooled myself of being a good person but I realized I am not. I was manipulative, a lier, and very disingenuous. I thought I was confident but I wasn't. I thought I was secure with myself but I wasn't. I feel I have discovered a lot of weaknesses in me that I would like to eliminate. I am in the process of truly discovering myself and I feel that is the path to "manhood".
I am currently in the process of learning how to do the things you said here and I just want to make sure that I am not fooling myself again.
Thank you for sharing.
[–]Mr-E-Relevont 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
me too. old habits die hard. its gonna take a bit of wrath to stick at it.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Start getting involved in activities that interest you. Talking and inviting people with similar interests. For example I recently started taking up fishing, shooting. I have a lot of fun doing them and enjoying telling people about it weather they have tried or not.
Translating becoming a man to game was easy for me. I know what I like and what I want so im a bit more direct with girls at first. Giving them a 15 minute spill about myself works great if they wanna talk. girls love the idea of one day fishing or shooting.
Just go after what you want
Got it. I guess I may have a more severe problem because I feel like I don't know what I want but I made it a goal to discover what I want first. Thank you!
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