Hey guys!

Last night I reopened an account on Plenty Of Fish after shutting it down for a year. I was reluctant to do so because of the fear of being "caught" by an old high school or college friend. Not to mention the whole stigma of online dating coming off as "desperate". But I figured that only an AFC would care about others' opinions and a true man wouldn't care but would rather OWN IT. So I reestablished the account. But this time wouldn't be like the last. No. I wouldn't see it through the same perspective as the one that led me toward multiple rejections. Last time I would take ages to come up with so message or tell her how pretty she looks. Not this time. This time I would just be myself and treat it like a joke. If she doesn't like my sense of humor it's her loss.

As I was browsing through the plenty of fish that Plenty-Of-Fish has to offer I stumbled across a really cute girl. Her About Me section was the typical rubbish that we've all seen "I'm only on here for serious men, If you're a gangster/mama's boy/deadbeat/boring/ugly/poor (blah blah blah insert adjective here) don't message me". If this would've been a year ago, I would've been like a dog at her feet messaging her some generic bullshit about how beautiful she is like any other guy. But this time would be different. Yes. This time I wouldn't give a fuck. Why? Because everybody else does.

So I messaged her with a more realistic mindset. I quickly realized that she's on this website just like myself and plenty of other people and she's been just as unsuccessful.

So I took the lead and challenged her to a game similar to 21 questions. Why? No particular reason, it's the first thing that popped in my mind lol. I said, "whoever can say the most interesting facts about each other wins a trip to Starbucks. Ok, I'll start with 3 facts about myself...(insert random facts here) Ok, your turn". Then I decided. Hey! That message was pretty generic! Why don't I use that for other profiles? This isn't dating in-person. Why don't I just copy this stuff and send it to other girls with small personalized changes? Ok, let's do it! Long story short, I got 3 immediate replies after messaging only about 5 girls. Last year I got 0. Out of about 50 shots lol I know this isn't an impressive feat as I have yet to pull a successful in-person approach. But the thing that really stood out to me was the different paradigm that I'm living in, now that i've broken free of the depressive mentality I used to have. Last year I fell into a crippling depression which really poisoned my mind. At that time in my life I thought I had lost all confidence but I've realized that I still have it! I show my confidence around my buddies, around my family or around somebody who I'm having a good time with. I just happened to mask that confidence when I was in front of an attractive woman. The point of this post is to encourage those who have tricked themselves into thinking they don't have confidence. I plan on employing this mindset in every aspect of my life and I hope you guys can too.

TL;DR I opened up Plenty Of Fish again and had more success than last year because I have realized that I actually AM a very confident guy, I just never showed it around girls. This next year will all be about employing that confidence to every aspect of my life and undoing some really bad mental programming brought on by my own social conditioning