okay so i see this really cute girl at the gym on the elliptical. I make eye contact a few times then garner up the cahones to approach her. the lump in my throat was the size of a fucking mango and my heart beat threatened to tear a whole through my chest but i took a deep breath and i did it. i walked up, got on the elliptical next to her and sparked a conversation. it didnt last very long, nor did it go anywhere, but that is so far from the point its not even funny. the point is, after that, after i walked up to that random girl that i had never met before in my life and sparked a totally spontaneous conversation, i didnt feel anxious anymore. the mango was gone and my heartbeat slowed. i felt like superman, literally like i could walk up to anyone, start talking, and not feel anxious. when the original girl left, i turned to the girl to my right and made small talk with her too. now, i understand interrupting a girl when shes on the elliptical probably isnt prime time to start a conversation with her, but again thats not the point. the real takeaway was that SOCIAL MOMENTUM IS A THING. its like the reward you get for manning up the first time. because once you get over that hump, its all downhill from there. this was my first completely random day approach and it opened my eyes to so much. so i know im beating a dead horse here but just do it. you will be so happy when you finally do.