Background: Hi, I've been lurking for a few months. I've read so many great things from you guys, eye-contact, confidence, posture, etc. I've improved my education, working out, eating right, becoming an overall great human being (loyal, honest, selfless, and kind). One final weakness I had to overcome was porn. Porn addiction was leading me to darker and darker porn and self-loathing. Removing porn has allowed me to have a lot of a confidence in who I am and the strength of my character (naturally less fapping making me more of a hunter and easily stimulated by even a woman's smile).

The perspective change: I say all of this to motivate my add-on to another great tip I read here. The idea presented here was about having a perspective "I wonder what's she's like". My modification to this tip is "enthrall me". This has been a huge perspective change for me combined with the confidence boosts I explained above. I have only been enthralled with one woman in my life. I wanted to grow old with her but she was married (off limits). How many women have completely captivated you with their mind, body, and soul? My guess is not that many. This perspective change has helped me approach hot women since they are only externally pretty and have not yet proven to me to be an equally great human being. Make great eye contact with an inquisitive "enthrall me" perspective.