I matched with Denise HB8, on Tinder. I opened up with a joke on one of her pictures and we’ve been nothing but joking until we met up. I told her very little about myself and she told me very little about her, which provided much more conversation material on the actual date. She was very busy with work so we decided to pick a date to meet up a week in advance. I made a mistake not sending her anything until two days before the date. Of course I shouldn’t have been texting her every day, but one or two more times in between our last contact and the date would’ve been better. I kind have had get back into the joking and fun vibe, and reinitiate about the date. Anyway, I made sure I was warmed-up and was able to get that date back on track.

We met two days later in a pub in London. I had to run an errand before the date and ended up being 30 minutes early. I picked what seemed like a nice spot, some chairs around a fire place. When she walked in I gave her a hug, immediately made a joke derived from one of our texting conversations to loosen up tension. We talked and talked and I built rapport, but then I realised I picked the wrong spot, the chairs we were sitting in were quite big and the distance between them didn’t allow for much natural kino. She said she really liked the fire place a couple of times so it made it a little harder to move. But she also already mentioned another bar three times when we talked about going out in London, and I took that as an opportunity to move places: “It seems like you really dig that bar, let’s go see it now.”, “Really?”, “Yes, really”. I paid the bill and we walked to the other bar.

We arrived at the bar and inside there were these tables with on one side a chair and on the other side a bench. She said “I want to sit on the bench” while she sat down, so I said “Oh good, me too” and sat close next to her. This immediately changed the vibe from “We just met and want to get to know each other” to “We are on a date because we are interested in each other”. We joked how bad it would be to do shots on a first date, and of course ordered those shots. Meanwhile I got to do a lot more natural kino, after a while I had my arm around her, my face close and when she looked at me I kissed her. We made out and talked for about 45 more minutes, and then she had to get her last bus because she had to work in the morning.

Here things got a little confusing. I told her I was going to wait with her for the bus as it was late, and she started making extremely subtile hints about sleeping over. I don’t really like inviting myself to someone’s place, and she already made it kind of clear that she was going to sleep home because she had to work next day. But with these subtile hints, she tried to get me ask to sleep over at her place, but I didn’t want to ‘ask’. So after a while she said something like “Do you ever sleep over at your Tinder dates?” so I said “No, they sleep over at my place”, she “What if they have to work the next day?”. I wanted to step out of this hypothetical speech, and said “Well for this time I can make an exception for you Denise”, and her response was “Oh what does that mean?” so I said “I’ll sleep at your place this time” but then she very seriously said “Oh I don’t know…”. I was confused, I think she wanted it, but also didn’t want it. At that moment the bus arrived, so I decided to cut the crap, gave her a kiss and said “Good night Denise, be safe, I’m going to catch my train”, to which she responded “No, no, sleep at my place!”. Looking back to this conversation I’m not 100% sure what happened. I wasn’t very alpha until I said that I was going, that made me not needy. Maybe I should’ve said I was NOT going to make an exception for her instead of that I was going to make one, to disqualify earlier on. Anyway, it turned out good as she invited me.

The bus ride was almost killing. It was crowded, very silent, so everyone in a radius of 10 feet around us could follow our conversation, which made her uncomfortable. I whispered to her and made some fun of the faces of some sleeping people in the bus, which got her to laugh, and let the mood not completely disappear. Then, we arrived her place and as soon as we closed the door behind us I kissed her and we had amazing sex.