So, I see there's another FR on the front page about some guy almost getting a threesome, but that's pure coincidence. Anyway.

Preamble

I went out Thursday with some classmates. Friday with a roommate. He went home early, I was high (speed) and so decided to stay a bit longer. (Before this goes any longer, I rarely do drugs outside alcohol and cigs. I don't wanna rely on drugs as a crutch. I just wanna be that guy I'm on speed, just sober. But full disclosure, Friday I was on speed.)

So anyway, I'm in social god mode because of the chemical stimulation. I talk to a bunch of people, get numbers from some musicians who might help me later (I'm a film student, might need some film music). Then, after the night is over, on my way home, I meet two random Russian dudes and decide, what the fuck, so I invited them home for some beers. (Yeah, you can tell I was high.) One of them was kind of a dick, but the other guy was pretty cool. He was living in London, just visiting Norway, and told me all sorts of stories. To make this shorter, I didn't plan on going out Saturday, but I did anyway with this Russian. Not much happened. I met one girl who told me, "this is such a small town, there's too many rumors. If this was New York, I'd definitely sleep around a lot." I feel like this was a cue I missed, but whatever.

Yesterday

So it's yesterday. I promise my roommate I won't invite any random Russians (he was a bit annoyed we were loud), and he invites me along. I live with three other guys, two of them work in the nightlife business. Partying with nightlife people is great. We arrive to a table full of hot girls (no one below average works at bars and clubs, it seems). The first hour, nothing much happens. My buddy and I aren't nearly as drunk as everyone else.

Then I go out for a smoke break. Randomly meet a girl from my hometown and her friend, along with their male friend who is "gay". So they said, but I don't believe them. Anyway, I sit at their table to share their ashtray, and they're immediately receptive. I feel like they were a bit too receptive. I'll get to it later, but guys: don't let pretty girls take advantage of you for buying drinks or whatever. Anyway, one of the girls starts telling me the other girl thinks I'm hot. Being drunk, and intoxicated by the attention, I escalate quickly. I have my arm around the girl I sort of know from my hometown, I'm kissing her neck, although she won't give me a kiss on the lips. I also give her friend some positive attention.

Then they ask me to take me upstairs to my friends, so I do. This, I think, is where I fucked up. Now these girls were openly hinting at a threesome, "just one more drink". Of course I'll pay. Fuck that. New rule: I'm not buying girls I don't know anything. Anyway, things were getting really heated at the table. One of the girls starts feeling up the other girl's tits. I can't believe this is happening. I'm not even doing anything in particular to encourage this. They laugh. I ask what's so funny. One of the girls says: "my friend isn't wearing a bra." Shortly thereafter, the braless girl is asking me if I want to feel up her tits. Then the two of them start massaging my crotch, unbuttoning my pants, starting to give me a handjob. I still can't believe this is happening. Am I living in a porno? I felt like a fucking pimp.

So the girls tell me they live together and want me to come home with them. I try to pull them right there, but they want to stay until closing time, which of course means more drinks, on me. We walk out of there holding hands all three, with their "gay friend" tagging along. We stop at a burger joint to get food, and this is where things go wrong. I paid for some cheap burgers. We were standing in line, I was holding hands with and kissing two girls alternatively, still pimpin' it up. But one of the girls finished her food quicker than the other, and went outside to wait for us. Then the other girl says she has to go out and check on their "gay friend", he might be sick, and it'd be uncomfortable for him if I followed along. She promised to come right back, and that was the last I saw of either of them.

Now, I suppose two things could have happened here:

  1. Their friend, whom I also know from my hometown and doubt is really gay, was really sick and they had to take care of him.

  2. They were just using me for free drinks and food.

Takeaways

Either way, lesson learned. Don't fucking spend money just because a girl has a pretty face and tits. On the other hand, if all they wanted was some free drinks, why not find some other sucker? Why practically fuck me in the club and invite me home with them, even if it never worked out?

Now, what did I do right here?

  1. Momentum. I'd been out several nights in a row, and even if I never scored, I carried that momentum with me.

  2. Rapid escalation. Although they girls were doing a lot of the work for me, past me would have been oblivious. I responded to their cues and took them one step further. I also made several attempts to pull them before closing time, and I tried (and failed, it seemed) to be straight with them and tell them I'm not a sucker they can scam for free drinks.

What did I do wrong? I don't know, other than spending a bit too much money. These weren't hookers, like I said, I know one of the girls from my hometown, they were just regular party girls. Even if I didn't get laid, at least I got everything but, with two girls at once. Never had that happen before.

To keep on trucking, I have a Tinder date for tonight. Gonna try and limit my spending, since I'm a broke-ass student, while still escalating quickly (compared to my usual, it takes me a month to take a girl's hand approach).

Feedback, suggestions? Is there anything I could have done to salvage the situation yesterday? What should I have done about "gay friend" (who may very well not be gay)? Tips for the tinder date? Anything is appreciated. Either way this is a huge step forward for me.