I've been doing night game for a few years now and have gotten fairly decent at it. But the issue was it was always after a few drinks.

Recently I started strongly believe in the idea that the 'your personality will develop around the state you find yourself in most often'. So while I'm very confident approaching girls at night after a few drinks, I was a little bitch while sober during the day. So I decided this is the area of pickup I would work on.

So today for the first time I decided to go day gaming with my wing.

Initially I was very nervous. I told my wing I wasn't sure if I could do it. But after seeing him approach a girl, get absolutely blown out, and return laughing, I realised how irrational my fear was. There was nothing to be scared of. Literally what is the worst that can happen?

My approaches:

  1. The first was an Italian girl. I approached and told her "Hi, I don't normally do this, but I was walking past and thought you were really cute, so I just wanted to say hi". She was friendly, but said she had a boyfriend, and was returning to Italy the next day. Whether she was lying or not didn't matter - I got the hint, wished her luck and moved on.
  2. The second was a Persian girl (literally a few minutes after the Italian). I approached her in a similar fashion. Told her that I thought she was cute (to be honest I didn't find her THAT attractive, but I just wanted to get a little bit more rhythm.) I was very leading in my tone, but my questions were very interview style. She seemed genuinely taken aback though, and so when I told her to give me her number, she said yes and gave it to me, and left. I probably won't text her but it was good experience number closing.
  3. We kept looking for girls, but couldn't really find any. Finally came across a 10 and my wing told me to approach, but I bitched out. I don't think I'm ready for that yet. I want to approach them, but every fibre of my body stops me from doing it. I could even say right now that I know I should approach her, but in the moment a different part of me takes over. So I bitched out of that one.
  4. Feeling bad about my Approach Anxiety, I moved on to a girl standing nearby. She was probably an 8. I walked up, and use the same line "I was walking past, and thought you were really cute, and I had to talk to you". She was quite friendly, but our conversation didn't have enough of a "man to woman" vibe. She was American so I asked her about her school back home. She was on her phone during the whole conversation (waiting for someone clearly), but she was friendly enough so I persisted. Finally another American guy joined us. I remained friendly, introduced myself and spoke to them for another minute or two. Finally I said goodbye and moved on. I didn't get the vibe that they were dating, but the girl didn't seem interested so I didn't push the issue.
  5. By this stage I was mentally drained. I didn't realise how much this stuff takes it out of you. I felt like telling my wing I was going to call it a day. He had done around 5 approaches too. But finally as we walked on he pointed out a girl walking by herself. I thought fuck it and approached. Same line about how I thought she was cute and wanted to meet her. She was very friendly, and after realising she was new to the city as well, I said, "Ok let's go see Trafalgar Square together". She agrees. BOOM INSTADATE.

Insta-date

We go to the square. I started kino escalating at this stage. High fives, taps on arm. A hug after I teased her.

We hang there for around 30 minutes. She mentions in our conversations that she had been to London a few years ago "with my boyfriend". I was a bit thrown off, but decided to keep playing it cool. I suggest we grab a coffee. And she says "no why don't we get a beer instead?". I agree and we leave to find a pub. At this stage she tells me she has to get a bus at 11.30pm back to her University (2 hours from London).

We get to the pub, I buy us drinks, and we go to the top floor which was empty. We continued to talk (the conversation was getting quite flirty). She then throws in a random comment about her "ex boyfriend". I ask her if its the one she came to London with and says yes. I decide to go full guns blazing with the kino escalation.

We leave the pub and I decide I'm going to make a move. I tell her "wait", then pull her in and go for a kiss. She pulls away and laughs. I play it icy cool. One thing I've learnt that is if the girl is still laughing and having a good time, then its definitely still on. We continue and I pretend to play up 'Oh I'm so heartbroken as a joke'. I think the fact that I was so unfazed by her rejection worked in my favour. We walk past a sign that says "Try a new hard thing every day" (or some shit like that). I tell her "I'm going to try kissing a cute Brazilian girl even though she already denied me once". She laughs and lightly pushes my face away.

We get to where her bus leaves, and I look at her straight in the eye and say "You know I'm going to try again don't you?". She laughs, and I just go in for the kiss. We agree that she'll come back down to London soon and we'll hang out again.

Lessons

  1. Embrace rejection. It is painful, but you need to trick your brain into realising that the worst part is always the lead up. If you approach with in a congruent, and genuine way, most girls won't reject you harshly but will just lightly let you down.

  2. Adding to the last point. The name of this game is persistence. If you asked me again whether I would be willing to get rejected by 4 girls to meet a 5th who I really liked and clicked well with, I would say HELL YEAH. You can get rejected by 100 girls, but the 101st might be the one you get along with. Isn't that worth it in the end?

  3. The more you approach, the easier it becomes. You just realise that there literally no bad consequences of this. You might as well do it.

  4. Just because a girl doesn't want to kiss you at that moment, doesn't mean she won't down the track. If you get denied, take a few steps (in terms of kino) back, stay an icy motherfucker, laugh it off, and then after the comfort level has been built up a bit, begin to re-escalate a bit more.