Don't lose your originality. If you're always hanging out/going to parties or bars/ drunk out of your mind, yeah it's fun but at the same time its not. On either a conscious or subconscious level you will try to fit in with everybody else who has already given up their personality to assimilate, and thus they sort of take your personality. If you are weird - fucking embrace it. To borrow a quote from Step Brothers: Don't lose your fucking dinosaur.

I can't emphasize enough the negative effects of how guys who are having identity crisis's will act ingenuine/hide their weirdness that makes them who they are while\ on a quest to better themselves.

The self is a fluid concept. That's what I always tell to rookies who refuse to accept an essential part of pick up philosophy because its not "who they are." It is essential to be open to adopting new mindsets if you want to grow as a person. If you constantly try to adopt new mindsets, again consciously or subconsciously, you will succeed. This is a very powerful tool in influencing your own psychology. Make sure you use it for the better. I can give you examples:

If you were stuck on an island with 20 people who were really stressed and uptight people, regardless of what kind of person you are eventually you will begin to adopt their mindset and you too will become stressed and uptight. They people that you surround yourself with will subtly implement their own psychology on you, and you can try your hardest to reject it, but at the end of the day your personality will resemble a conglomeration of the top 5 people you spend the most time with. That's inevitable. What I'm saying is, make sure that you try to at least be conscious about what behaviors, phrases, and mindsets you are adopting and if the people you are choosing to surround yourself with really have behavioral traits that you wish to adopt. If not, do not spend a lot of time with them, for you will start to become them. I have spent countless nights with a bunch of whitewashed people who all think dress and act exactly the same and eventually I would wake up in the morning feeling like I had been robbed of my individuality, the one thing that made me who I am and set me apart from everybody else. I noticed that I was actually getting worse with with talking to girls (at a party you get better at non verbal communication, but because the music is so loud usually that's all you have to rely on). When I went to community college, I had no ridiculously generic company because all of us had too individualized lives (lived at home still), but because of that I always had a lot of time to think about things, so when I saw a pretty girl I wanted to talk to, I would put forth my best effort to talk to her. Some times it would be more rewarding than others, but atleast from my end I knew I was trying my best. And that's all you can really do.

Then at University after spending my time with normal boring guys, when would I see or talk to girls, I felt like I was missing my unique or original spunk that made me successful in the first place and its because 1.) I haven't been exercising it correctly or 2.) the people I was spending time with weren't like that, so I had subconciously drifted away from the core things that made me good at being who I was.

The message of this post is to say: amongst all of this pick up stuff, where we constantly feed ourselves information in the name of changing/improving who we are, it is an important virtue to always remember who you are deep down and take that with you. Because at the end of the journey, even if you are successful, it is meaningless if you do not have your true self by your side the the entire time. You may get to where you want to go, but you will feel empty and cold inside knowing that somewhere along the line you dropped that person who wants to be a doctor, or who likes pokemon, or whatever the fuck it i. Your successes and exploits in life will not feel the same if you did not achieve it while sticking to who you are on the inside.