just a heads up - there might be some who will think "wtf! this dude has some fucked up issues!" I am aware of that, but since this is a place where people come to improve lifestyle, here are my 2 cents.

before I could not last longer than 2 mins. the first time I had sex, couple months ago was in a bathroom of a bar and I finished in like 10 secs I think, if not less. But to make up for it, as we made out after I finished, which later I found out that she never realized I that I came, I rubbed her clits, fingered her, sucked them titties, and grabbed her ass while we were at it. and later her had sex again when we went back to her place, where I for about a song, so like 3-5 mins. This is the story of how I lost my virginity. And I usually last for 10-15 mins on a good day, but today's askreddit thread did a trick for me. "Hatefucking" I basically pictured my FWB as the girl who broke my heart and I fucking lasted for more than 40 mins. I always looked at sex as an art of making love, but this, this was fucking amazing! Instead making love to girl X, in my mind I was sexually dominating and punishing the girl who ruined my life. Blew a large load as well. Going to try it again next time I hook up. 9/10 would recommend.

Back to virgin me. Now this was a period where I was moping over a girl not having the feelings for me, so after that happened for 3 months or so, I decided to just go out and game like an maniac to distract myself from her. It worked better, the more I gamed.

After losing my virginity to the girl, me being the un-improved version, she got rid of me. Now that I look back I realized it was probably because I was a "nice dude" meaning a beta, and all that blue pill shit. Now here is something interesting that I think everyone thinks they're an exception and I thought I was one, I have been a lurker on /r/TheRedPill for over a year, and in-spite of that I acted that way. I got my shit back together in a day, made a plan on how to be the improved man in a day or so, and the next day I was out on the streets of the towns around me gaming again. Now this process of realizing where/how I fucked up took me over 2 weeks, and I hope this post helps at least one person to avoid that mistake. DON'T EVER PUT A HOLD ON YOUR LIFE FOR ANOTHER PERSON BECAUSE MOST LIKELY THEY WONT DO THAT FOR YOU! YOUR TIME IS PRECIOUS FOR THIS BULLSHIT.

Too upset over a girl, well too bad! She is probably fucking the brains out the guy she left you for. Or sucking his dick before going to bed, or cuddling up next to him the next morning. These things were the things that fueled me to get better at game at the time. (Now it is just a hobby.) But not everyone can have the same fuel. If this depresses the shit out of you, I am sure there is a another perfect fuel for you. Just make sure you try enough to find it, and don't wait for it to find you.

So summer started, I lost my virginity. had sex couple more times that week. Got "dumped", lost my shit, got my shit back together and made some progress in game.

Something on openers - I have learnt that there is no such thing as a perfect opener. If you say something to a girl at a club/bar, will not work if you say that to her at a park, or the grocery store. So always start with compliment. my favorite - "Hi excuse me, I just wanted to let you know that you compliment your (outfit/dress/whatever she is wearing) just as much as it compliments you." I have been using this since August, and it has also got me numbers form girls who are in a relationship. (Yes, I go after girls that dating someone because I don't care. a part of me wants to get back at the world for what it did to me, and a another part is I look at it like, if her and I are a better match than her bf, then thats start of a new romance, not the end of one. *Please be careful of the the boyfriend though. Some guys a big betas and do not have an abundance mentality, so they might come after you instead of realizing that THEIR gf was the culprit. ) Back to the opener - The opener has to be something that the girl has to have worked hard for. I know for a fact that chicks work hard on their clothes, hair, weight etc. so be sure to notice a haircut or change in their lifestyle. If you compliment her on something she doesn't work hard for then this opener will not work. so obviously dont use if bitch is not dressed well. [ FR. skip to the next para for theory. This "opener" is a great conversation starter for someone whom you have not met in a while. this happened couple days ago- Me: (throws the opener) her: Omg I did! I was kind of nervous when I got it. me: why? I know you have tried couple different hairstyles (I know here since high school, so we have a history of sexual tension) but I think I would have to say you compliment this hairstyle just as much as it compliments you. Can't think of anyone on top of my who can pull this off better. (goes back to eating chipotle) obviously there was more in the conversation but such things act like trigger for girls. For guys, all it takes is a smile from a girl and some attention to fall had for her, but for girls the bar is higher. hotter the girl, higher the bar. laster she skipped her class which she was supposed to go after dinner, and we made it till 3rd base in her car. Look for hints, if she says she doesn't wanna go to class, agree and amplify. I said something like - you know I am a TA for another section of the Supply Chain class, so if you skip I will make sure to help you, and I kinda want to go check out this trail. It will be time well spent if you skip. you just have to make sure that she doesn't feel like a slut, and when she tells this story to her friends, she say "it just happened"]

Once you have opened, build rapport, but while you do this do not miss out on her body language. If she is in a rush, may be a number close. For such situations you can push your luck by traditional game, or you can do a one minute close - "Hey, I only have a minute. I saw you from there and I wanted to see you are as beautiful (other adjective if you want) from the inside as you are from the outside" this line has worked wonders for me, just don't fuck up the delivery.

I commute to university, so I literally take every opportunity to flirt and game. On the bus, sit next to a girl and spit game. At starbucks, she orders pumpkin spice latte- use push pull. Get early to class (because usually the same people get early to class. If you are too shy and pussy out at the last minute, just act confident, make eye contact and smile. Smile like she is the one, you are her one. It is okay to pussy out, just don't pussy out too much. make sure you open her next class though.) I came up with a rule after my freshman year - I will never fucking eat a meal by myself. It was the worst year of my life and told myself I will never do that again. Doesn't matter how hungry you are. Go up to an random dude if you may and join him if you dont wanna ask a girl. This way you force yourself to get out of your comfort zone, because eating is one of the most socially acceptable intimate things you can do with anyone. There have been times I fasted/starved because of this rule, but I like how far it has gotten me. You do not have to do the same, but make sure you have a discipline.

Speaking of discipline, make sure you dress, sit, behave like you are disciplined. I am not saying don't be goofy, but learn to say no. Girls are a lot less used to being stood up than guys. For example, if I am with a girl, and she wants me to skip class or break my schedule to hangout, while she has been ignoring me when I try to hangout with her, just say "cant today." dont give an explanation. no one owes anyone an explanation. Just move on. Now the reason I say this is because when you deny something like this, it may build her attraction to you, but it will definitely boost up your self esteem.

Daygame is easy - Dress nice, speak properly, and have the balls to be direct with girls. They usually appreciate it caz sometimes it will make their day. If it does not work, well then find another target. Always try to insta-date, that way you can kiss close at least, and the next time you meet up (i try to make it the same night) you can make-out with minimum resistance because the sexual tension is already there, and you can f-close.

Nightgame, in interesting. I am an indian male, 5'5 so obviously I am the not the first preference in girls but it doesn't matter, because I make up for it with my energy. How? be flirty. learn couple of dance moves to use on girls, and don't just keep making out/grinding with her. Take a moment to leave the party for 5 mins or so to build rapport, and go back to the party. Now you just went from "guy I was making out with" to "guy I met at a party and a good time with. And things just happened" I have completely zoned out on building the rapport caz well ASS and BOOBS and had to basically start from scratch because her friends only saw you making out, and she doesn't know enough about you to convince her friends. I am still trying to work on this. If anyone has a guide, please share. Onetime I played my cards right and took a group of 3 girls home. so it was M-F-F-F (foursome?) but obviously I couldn't have sex with all of them, because I cant last that long, and I only had 2 condoms. So please have extras at all times. a future note for such a hook up, just leave asap if all the girls know each other because it can weird. Mine got really weird and pushed my luck more than required causing me to never see them again.

Texting should be used only to flirt and schedule dates. Don't talk about her family or whatever bullshit over text. Thats a ticket to friendzone. and then you have to work your way out of it.

And for those who are in the GAME because a bitch fucked you over here is something that helped me - “In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.”

find a hobby to balance your emotions. One of the things I did is I started writing shayari ( poetry in Hindi) to still keep that romantic side of me alive. For some reason I do not want to kill that part of me, but there was a post in /r/TRP about how there is always a beta inside of you no matter how hard you try to become an alpha. But the goal is to make sure that the beta never surfaces. So it is something private about my life. Literally no one know about this, except you bastards. Point being, keep your beta a secret if you're trying to be that aplha dude. you can't do both at the same time.

obviously english is not my first language, so bare with the errors please. I will be more than happy to correct them if pointed out. Also this is my first post to /r/seduction

Happy belated thanksgiving!