So I have a sticking point, and I’m posting here to keep me accountable, and perhaps get some advice on what’s helped YOU! See, I’m in a pretty unique position - I’m an entrepreneur living in Bali. But before I left the states to travel the world, I was pretty pathetic with women - although I had good social skills - but had hardly any dates and sex for a long period of time.

Luckily, I was able to devour a few books and get back into the dating scene. I found a really great, beautiful girlfriend I ended up dating for 4-5 years. We broke up, but I wouldn’t change it as I “fell in love” for the first time.

After that, I had a stretch where I used Tinder and online dating to meet a lot of women. Sometimes i had 4 dates in one weekend, and would have dates back to back. I had a few friends with benefits, and a regular girl I was seeing. I felt like the man, it rocked, it was pretty cool. But - I had a crutch. And I still have it. But let me explain something before I tell you what it is…

See, having a lot of women, on rotation, or one after the other, is not as fulfilling as you think it is. Sure, it’s fun, builds confidence, but isn’t as great as you think it is. The guys that have been there know this. I’ve had sex with more than enough women. I’m not in it for the lay count. I’m not in it just for sex. I was at one time, but - like I said - it just ain’t fulfilling. I’m in it to find a great girl whom I can have an awesome relationship with. So what’s the problem?

So - there tends to be different quality girls on Tinder than in “real life.” As you guys have seen, some women won’t venture on Tinder. I’m using online “pickup” as a crutch - yeah I can get lots of dates - but I’m not meeting the type of women I want.

Furthermore, I’m in American in a foreign country (Bali, Indonesia) - which makes picking up woman harder (and in some cases, easier) because of the language barrier. I dated a girl for a couple months who taught me some of the language, but I’m not fluent. I’m working on becoming fluent - when you can socialize with a girl, tease them in HER language, everything changes.

See, I’m almost always great with a girl on date. I hit it off with most girls i date. The ones I don’t hit it off with or who don’t like me - I just move on, no big deal. But my major sticking point is picking up women during daily life. Coffee shops, at the beach, walking on the street, etc. And there are tons of gorgeous women here (local and foreign). But for some reason, I just can’t get in the habit of approaching them. I’m nearly 3/4 the way through Mark Manson’s book, Models, which I think is the best book on non-sleazy, confident man, “this is how the real world” is “pick up” book. But it’s not really a pick up book - it’s more of a be true to yourself lifestyle book, and be direct with women. I know what i should do, but I tend to go into anti-social, introvert mode when I’m out and see a cute girl I want to approach. So this is my post where I tell you I’m working on changing that. It’s going to keep me accountable. What have YOU done to overcome this fear of approaching during the day. I’m done with the “I just wanna fuck every girl” bullshit. I want something real, and I want to approach girls I see every day.

I want to have the sort of balls that shine your shoes when you walk, where I can immediately walk up to any girl and introduce myself, be direct, and go for it.

How do I do it? Can you help me? What’s YOUR advice? I want to know.