The initial approach

AlphaAsFAQ · 2014-05-20T00:15:46+00:00

Try using the skipped conversation routine. Run through a conversation you would have with her if you were to walk up to her right now in your head. E.g. Is this seat taken?, No, Hi, Hi, How's your day been?, Good thanks yours?, Fine thanks so do you come to this place often?, Yeah I guess as the coffee is pretty good.

At this point stop yourself, walk over to her, sit down and continue the conversation but with her this time... "Yeah I think that barista takes his job a bit too seriously but that's a good thing hey?"

Girls are exceptionally good at conversing and talking, they practice nothing more in their lives. You can cut out a large chunk of a conversation, especially token stuff, and they can instantly pick it up and run with it.

Music is a good one for this if you are at a festival, concert or bar. Walk up to her and comment or ask her something very specific about the band that is recent news. "His other remixes were great but I am not sure he did this one justice" "Do they really sound better live though?" etc.

Remember not to put her on a pedestal and run the mantra through your head that she is an ugly landwhale. Chat to her as if you had no intention to do anything but chat or gain information.

raceAround126 · 2014-05-19T21:49:52+00:00

Just start talking. What's happening around you. Are you somewhere mutually interesting like a concert or a gallery. If you're in a coffee shop, ask advice or what they're reading.

Major tip. Start conversations with guys too. They're less threatening, likely to be more receptive and theres no sexual tension for obvious reasons. Its all practise. I learned more about cold approach randomly talking to guys quicker than if I'd get shot down before I'd open my mouth with girls. Now I'm confident with anyone. it rules.

tunzoffun · 2014-05-19T17:53:30+00:00

Hi my names ______, you as interesting as you look?

Title	The initial approach
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Date	May 19, 2014 4:10 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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