My dream girl who has a boyfriend

Gearbulk · 2015-12-19T12:45:09+00:00

Bro, you should look for ''a girl IN my dreams'' instead of ''a girl OF my dreams''.

kildami · 2015-12-19T14:32:20+00:00

I've noticed that the "dream girl" thing happens to guys who don't interact with multiple attractive women. It's the same pattern every single time. There's one cute girl in the guys life who laughs at his jokes or shows the slightest amount of interest and suddenly she's the "dream girl". You've been spending a lot of time with her so your brain naturally focuses on her. Her flaws disappear and she seems like a goddess. Your fantasies begin to involve her and she's in your thoughts constantly. You don't know it but you have stopped viewing her objectively a long time ago. The rose colored lenses have been placed on the minute she laughed at your first joke. I'm sure she's attractive and a cool person but is she really that much different from the next attractive girl?

Next semester or a year from now you'll probably meet another "dream girl". You'll look back on the current one and suddenly you can see her objectively. She's still really attractive and cool but you won't be able to understand your previous obsession with her. I fell into this trap when I was younger too. When I started regularly hooking up with 2-3 hot girls instead of obsessing over one, was when I stopped having "dream girls". It's really just perspective. A thirsty man in the desert will find water to be the finest beverage he's tasted.

Don't get me wrong I'm not some Red Pill women hater dude. I respect girls and I do enjoy their company for reasons outside sex. I simply think guys toss out "dream girl" or "the one", without having been with enough women to make that statement.

The chance your going to get the dream girl to break up with her bf seems slim. You have a shot at hooking up with her best friend. If the dream girl does have any shred of attraction for you, she WILL be jealous if you hook up with the best friend. You'd be surprised at how many unresponsive girls show interest the minute you start hooking up with their friend, or even better, someone she thinks is prettier than her.

JTCX · 2015-12-19T12:24:13+00:00

You presumed she'd never leave her boyfriend. So either get over her, or prove yourself wrong.

I wouldn't settle for 2nd best (Dream Girl's friend)

undniable · 2015-12-19T13:52:25+00:00

I would passively try to get with my dream girl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TY3rT2N1Ecs

I just watched this vid and it's very relevant. You're the "I'll be here when you breakup guy" they talk about.

And there's also the chances of you being in the friendzone and you don't even realize it.

F3arless_Bubble · 2015-12-19T14:48:03+00:00

bro i am in the same boat as you. except the thing is I'm going to ask her out regardless of the fact that she has a boyfriend (never met him, but 80% sure they are together long distance) because she is showing a lot of signs of interest. (edit) I'm obvs not going to let it go far if she's still with the bf, not about that life, not going to be the side guy for anyone. Either she will break up with him or reject me lol. Don't be that guy who just waits for them to break up or something. I was that once for a whole year in HS, and it was the biggest waste of my life.

IMO, don't waste your time, date who is available. Keep her on good terms though in case she ever does go single but don't stay single just to wait for her. Also don't get stuck in the friend zone by hanging with her too much when she has a bf, unless you're trying to just be friends... try and keep a sexual tension. best of luck to us both !

Title	My dream girl who has a boyfriend
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Date	December 19, 2015 11:02 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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