Take yourself back to elementary school for a second. There are seduction lessons (particularly relating to party game) to be learned there.

When I was a fifth grader, there was this girl named Katrina. I liked her and she liked me. Every time we passed one another in class, there was a polarization, a spark.

Because we were in fifth grade, we couldn't just sit down and talk. Get to know one another. That was too taboo. So I would play at recess with my friends and she would play with hers. If she passed by, I would tease her. If I passed her, she would tease me. Whenever we came into contact, we would both leave with smiles and the adolescent smoldering of desire. The basis of seduction.

We became addicted to the feeling of excitement upon seeing one another, to the sparring itself. Her friends knew I liked her. My friends knew she liked me. We were electrons moving around in this social space, colliding and producing energy in random, spontaneous bursts.

I was recently at another party 12 years in the future and I realized social game / party game is not much different than elementary school.

Approach her, express interest. But don't ignore everything else. Don't focus everything on her and interview her or try to monopolize her time (at least not yet). Meet people. Enjoy the food and atmosphere. Let your energy play through the party, as an eleven year old plays. Feel and dance as an eleven year old feels and dances, with a love for life, with a confidence that he is amazing just as he is.

Fly around the room on joyous wings as she will be doing the same. It's why she's out, after all. As your orbits overlap let sparks illuminate the night, again and again until she is addicted to the feeling. She will remember the joy of a first crush. She will remember being teased and how much she enjoyed it. She will feel light and giddy and want to see you again. She will seek you out without knowing why because you make her feel alive.

Then you take her as a man would take her.