Hi guys,

I don't mean to be a wet blanket but I'm having some trouble with women. I've been having troubles for a few months now and it's really laying in on my inner game. I'm actually very good at not letting these things affect me and at keeping an abundance mentality. But I can't lie, pushing away my negativity becomes increasingly harder when your percieved losses keep going up without much to show for the battles.

I'm a pretty good looking guy. I could be better - taller, shorter nose, etc. - but I'm satisfied with what I'm packing. My ex-girlfriend(and numerous other girls I've seen before her) used to always compliment me on my looks. I'm not too concerned with that - except that, like I said, taking too many losses shakes my confidence up a little. Still, I'm good at keeping a steady head.

About 2 years ago I was going through some pretty severe depression. I moved to a new area and I did not want to leave my house. To cope with my problems, I smoked a lot and watched a lot of movies. I was not very socially active but I am thankful for this period because it gave me some time to explore films and media that really caught my attention. I also moved from a big city to a small town and it's something I'm not exactly adjusted to.

Eventually something clicked in me and I decided to use my time more wisely. I found 3 retail jobs at the nearby mall and filled up my parking lot. I'm still working all 3 jobs too. I get close to 40 hours a week and my weekends are generally spent on work. I'm always wearing a tailored suit to work too. I live with my mom, although she is generally not at home, giving me good space to work my magic.

I guess I should get to the meat of my problems: I haven't gotten laid in over 6 months. I've recently felt very unattractive and I have all sorts of envy and jealousy problems springing up. I've had one or two opportunities but for one reason or another, they didn't work out. There wasn't a guaranteed lay in either of them for me, though I could have worked one out, considering the situations I was in.

I'm very close friends with a natural. He's a great guy with a girlfriend and he's constantly finding side chicks to get with. They get really invested into him quickly. For example, right now he has two girls bringing him coffee and lunch to his store. He also works a full-time job at the same spot that I do.

I find it extremely hard to not be jealous around him or other guys. I'm a great guy who's already had amounts of pussy in the past. I used to go out a lot too, cold approaching in the big city. But now it feels like I'm getting rejected a lot. It's hitting my confidence and has me asking myself why. My first conclusion was that I'm too busy to even bother with girls... but my good friend shows me that's not the case. He has side girls whipped, where they work around their schedule, to work for him.

Some people will say "well it's your depression." Well, I do therapy 3 times a week(I'm about to do another session now). It greatly lifts my mood and my self-esteem... but at the end of the day, I'm still not getting any pussy. At a level, it feels like my friend is taking all the attention and I'm getting none.

Lastly... I can't cold approach in a small town. I refuse to unless the circumstances are special. This town has a lot of good looking girls... but they are much younger and very chatty. The last I need is to get known as a weird guy. But travelling outside of this town to cold approach is at least an hour of commuting and it's really hard to manage that solo.

I'm looking for advice on this... has anyone been through this?

  • A dry spell?
  • A dry spell with a good friend that's getting action while you're not?
  • Maintaining abundance mentality for long periods of time without cold approaching?

I need some advice, because I feel like a stone pillar that's eroding with time and weather. I want to be sexually-abundant but it doesn't seem to be working for me, and(this is partially my depression speaking) it feels like my problems are going to go on forever, and I simply won't have the lifestyle that I want.