This is an issue I keep coming across in Vancouver, where there seems to be hordes of dudes out practicing their daytime street approaches.

You are daygaming as if it is night time.

It comes off a bit weird.

For a newbie who has the basics down, i.e. Body language, tonality, grooming, approach technique, etc, you want to be normal/not weird.

You don’t need to over talk, or try to pump her buying temperature. Not on every interaction. Just show you have confidence and add a little bit of “game.” That being push pull, rapport, cold reading, role playing, and so forth. You don’t need to over do it though, which is what I see happening. Guys acting like dancing monkeys and weirding the girls out.

I know a lot of you watch RSD infield vids. I think RSD has some amazing infield content. But realize most of that stuff is made for party culture, at night.

Here is my simple, barebones philosophy that differentiates the two:

Night game: Be fun/energetic/entertaining/centre of attention

Day game : Be normal/relaxed/not weird/confident/charming

When you approach women at a party, the idea is to be entertaining, and escalate physically in a smooth manner. You want to command the attention of a group perhaps, or raise the spirits of those around you.

When you approach women in the daytime, you want to come off as not weird, creepy, awkward. You don’t need to be so entertaining because the fact that you approached them is already impressive. Approaching a woman in a bar is not so impressive, so more “game” is required.

At night, you want to separate yourself from the other guys by being different. You want to be the shiny thing.

In the day you will probably be the only guy that approaches her that day, that week, or that month even. So you already stand out.

It’s really easy to over-game in the daytime. At night, people are drinking, their energy is on a higher vibration (or lower) and if you are too chill you won’t even be noticed.

In the day, people have a more baseline vibration, and you want to match that.

The rule is to always be just slightly higher in energy, or vibe. Not far too high, or far too low.

This involves what you say, how you move, your volume of speech, and your physicality.