I'm going to start posting field reports so I can see my growth
This was all taken as scribbled down notes sorry for the format Id like keep them the way they were.
Today I got a free 20 minute lesson from Bradicus If you wish to pay for coaching I would recommend him. He was very nice he met me when I was at the wrong location. He also gave me great advice in a short period of time. He said he is cheaper at the moment, before he coaches a course (I believe it was called 4 week natural) so get in fast.
Brad also mentioned you shouldn't go up to a girl with another guy at the same time
I am going to try to be more social with everyone to gain experience I started opening sets on people who are on the tram I think I should open the guys first so the girls do not think I'm hitting on them. These are social sets I am not going to flirt with someone who in a confined space.
He taught me to not reject myself and stick with a set. (I was prematurely leaving sets even when someone liked me.)
He said I should be doing 10 sets a day. I don't think this is possible with my lifestyle but I will do as many as possible.
Brads crew thought it was great that I had a low amount of approach anxiety for a noob.
Brad and his friends tried to fix my friend sam's approach anxiety. I don't think he wants to learn the art of seduction but this is very helpful for him to overcome his fear of showing interest in people.
I have learned to be indirect people understand I like them without being direct.
Having a noob "Sam" with me is helpful I was getting advice just from a noob.
I am starting to notice what different reactions mean. Does she like me sexually, like me friendly, feel awkward, feel creeped out.
I had a set with a lesbian couple to me they seemed to feel awkward I'm not sure if I should have been able to detect they were lesbians.
I am trying to use more statements then questions but i am using many questions still.
My friend Sam told me to move locations and act more casual. Some girls were creeped out before I even interacted with them. Sam explained that they saw me pacing around doing sets with people. So Sam said I must act more casual and move to different locations.
I have splayed feet Sam said this made me look drunk. I am not sure how I can fix that is part of my body. If my knees are straight my feet are quite splayed and I already use orthotics. I may look into this in the future.
My first set thought I was drunk, I think this was a reflection of my confidence and awkwardness.
I think one woman thought I was a prostitute as she was saying something along the lines of "find Jesus". Just thought that was humorous
I believe I did around 7 sets I cant remember how many. some sets had two or three people
Most sets were in the afternoon/evening
I managed to hug with a girl in my first set
I tried lightly initiating kino with some people touching their arms shoulders handshakes ect
I negged the first girl "your so awkward your making me awkward" I think this had a negative impact.
My first set said I was acting different going from cockey and then making a negative statement about my self. I thought I was being honest with her. It seems even my honesty lacked frame😂.
I moved in close with the people I was talking to when possible.
I think I had an opportunity to kiss my first set but I didn't
The biggest downside is my family do not understand what I'm doing and I have helicopter parents this is creating tension advice on dealing with this would be great!
Update 2 I have done a few more approaches
No-one has been creeped out
People have felt a bit awkward
Approach anxiety continues to fade but is still there
I have focused on statements of empathy
Conversational skills and physical skills with complete strangers is still poor
I have joined a gym to improve my health
I got a name from a woman and she said I could add her on Facebook but I really doubt anything will happen with it.
My current skill level is still very poor but I am witnessing it growing
Update 3 I'm definitely improving a girl asked for my number and rang it straight away too make sure it was right.
Another girl gave me her name and said we could hang out some time but with her friends as well so I don't think that go anywhere.
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