I'm wondering if Seddit can help me out.

I get lots of attention from women. Women approach me in bars, they ask me out over social media, they smile at me on the street. All the women in my social group hang on me at gatherings, all my buddy's wives and girlfriends seem to love me and are always talking about friends they went to hook me up with, women wait to say hi to me after yoga class. It's wonderful!

But I'm experiencing a problem. This attention seems to turn into friend-mode almost immediately after I reciprocate attention back or express any interest. I know the original attention was sexual because I usually do ask the women out, and they excitedly say yes. I do end up having sex with a reasonable amount of these women. From all accounts the feedback is good. One woman even told me after sex that I had a "good reputation" for sex in our social circle, but even that one called it off after that first time. What gives?

It just seems that I'll get lots of positive signals, but it all goes south fast after 1-2 encounters.

I've asked some of the women what they felt like had changed. They usually respond back something along the lines of "you're great, but just not what I'm looking for right now." I see a lot of them ending up with guys that are kind of putzes in my estimation.

I'm a little bit older (38) and roll in a semi-tight social circle, but not so small that all the women know each other. There's plenty of room for MLTRs without them all knowing each other. Most the women are in their early 30's. I wonder if I've gotten a reputation for easy "one and done" dick. Or if I'm suddenly coming across as needy in the way I show interest back. Should I even be showing interest back?

Also, the women that are approaching me are usually 7-8s. I end up sleeping with the 8-9s. The 9's typically don't come to me, I initiate with them. And the hotter the women, the faster they are to flee.

Any insight ya all got would be appreciated.