I feel like I never have a chance to plan shit to do with my girlfriend because she is always so god damned proactive about planning shit to do way ahead of time (10 days).

She always picks 2-3 things and then submits them to me for the final decision, but I feel like this is a farce. I am merely going along for the ride.

I don't want to create a planning arms race. How do I tell her to chill out without looking like a pussy? I like to suggest things, but in my own time (2-3 days before the event). What do I do?