Just a quick tip for some guys out there , you might be super drunk or high when you meet a girl and you might be over thinking the whole thing but always keep two things in your mind as a default.

  1. Always introduce yourself with a hug. No questions asked go for a hug when you exchange names. Start the kino off fast and strong.

  2. Reciprocate. This is crucial because if you don't you are automatically de-escalating.

She opens with an extra kiss on the neck? You must kiss her back on the neck.

She rubs your back? You have to copy it. At the bare minimum she is leading the interactions but at least she sees you are interested. So she won't be afraid to escalate on your behalf.

If she takes an extra step and you DON'T reciprocate then you are basically telling her you aren't interested.

Always keep a look out for the subtle escalations in an interaction.

She touches your hand? You let her do it and you caress it for a bit. "Mindlessly" rub your leg on her leg if hers touches yours etc.

I say all of this because it's been somewhat of an issue for me, being high on md or drink and realising in hindsight that I've been subconsciously de-escalating girls who were free fucks.