Hello, everyone. I'm a newbie in seddit and seduction in general, but I've taken an entirely different approach to game than the one taught to me. I'm hoping to share my 0.02 on this board and in return get feedback from others.

People taught me a lot about reframing and various assumptions that you have to make in order to have people comply with what you want(the so-called yes ladder), in this case, women. By maintaining your exterior or appearance(frame control), you're able to direct the conversation. So, these people gave me quick fixes: Treat her like she's your little sister, assume she likes you etc. The thing is that these frames worked, but just didn't for me...

I got cold-shoulder'd by women, I purposely approached women below my standards because of that and worst of all, I got into a vicious cycle that was apparent in my daily life or interactions with other people(bad mood). My fix on that was to behavioristically see what I was doing in all of these interactions. I didn't change my so-called 'frame'(I didn't adapt) In some instances, I didn't want to bother her before even approaching(??? What if I bother her???) *...Yet, in other instances I was doing overly so(after pumping up my state to go approach her, I was being rude)

It's as if I didn't want her to like me!

I saw a pattern and I'll summarize what I did to fix this, as clearly as possible: 1) I asked myself what I wanted to 'get' out of her as a person or object 2) I asked myself how I was going to do that(what concrete steps will I take NOW) 3) I did so with full awareness of my body 4) I assumed that they were going to go along with what I had in mind 100%

The key here is congruency, in my opinion. People didn't stop their conversations to give me their full attention, because I wasn't intent on them doing so. Once I was intent on them doing that, I didn't hold myself back. I didn't believe I could contribute to their conversations. What happened before I knew my intent is that I had a little thought creep in, that said: "What if I bother them?". In my eyes, I believe you either go fully for something, or you do not at all. That is devotion.

If you cold approach, know your intent and be a 100% behind your approach. The way you stop her, the way you get her attention and you small talk yourself into her contact's list is all about you and her. What's the point in techniques, frames, routines, pitch and social circle tactics if you aren't playing the number's game and are already practicing?

Thank you for reading