I was on a first date and all I did was talk about myself and ask about her. But it seems chaotic to me like there's no structure or order. I feel like I need to be leading her in a direction or at least crossing checkpoints to cement a 2nd date. I also havent been getting 2nd dates so I suspect I am doing something very wrong. Can someone experienced with getting 2nd dates tell me how you're supposed to behave on a first date?