I'm from Argenitna, I struggle to write in English. So apologies in advance. I will divide this post into CONTEX-PROBLEM-PLAN CONTEXT-- I am dating this girl from tinder. First date escalation went ok. Escalation was not too high tough. Just joining hands finger by finger, some hugs, some leg touch, a one second kiss which she refused but enjoyed nonetheless. I could see on her eyes that she was enjoying my attitude of escalation all the time. I showed I was somewhat of a player though. She tried to put me into this little box which I managed to escape like a boss. She is from a town of 200K inhabitants that its 200 kilometers (125 miles) away. My city is 1M inhabitants. She lived here for about 9 years.

PROBLEM-- Second date, she refuses escalation at all even though I see in her face how she enjoyed it. Perhaps her feelings of joy were because she had the power to reject me or perhaps she is not too sexual and she can play with men's feelings like little toys (psychopath). I then started to feel of humiliated, being taken as a little unimportant thing by the way she talked to me. My mind went into this state of zombieness waiting for the suffering to end. Perhaps it’s that I have a big ego or perhaps it’s something the way I manage the situation or the way I managed my thoughts.

PLAN-- I will not date this girl again unless I have knowledge to create a plan to put myself in a better position. I'll say her something like "You are the type of girl that I don't have access to. The type of girl that needs a lot of time" Framing her in a way she is too valuable and I can't reach her. That way I don't dump her like trash, I don't lose future opportunities in case she changes her mind, if I see her again by accident things don't became too awkward and I don't create an enemy in case she has power to use against me in the future.