Hi everyone I’m a young lad 22, had a lot of issues in my life so I didn’t go out and date and stuff but just got into it, I wanted to really work on myself this year and look after myself because I have confidence issues and want to love myself before loving someone else.

However, I wanted to improve on talking to women and getting comfortable with it. I’ve tried cold approaching got rejected a few times and got a few numbers etc but I make them laugh and stuff but I always fall short I’m always comparing myself to others and wondering what did I do wrong? I feel like I talk maybe too much? And make a lot of jokes I’m also very respectful of women’s boundaries and stuff and listen to them but other people just don’t and they are successful. Now, I know maybe they weren’t meant for me and stuff but idk maybe I should be confident and not care and keep being myself but I’m not sure I have adhd and talk a lot sometimes and make a lot of jokes but can never escalate I feel like. I never know when it’s appropriate versus when it’s not you know?

I have always had self confidence issues even though I’ve been called handsome and stuff I still feel like I’m ugly? I’m wondering if anyone’s had a similar experience of gaining of confidence and if they have, what did you do? And how did you gain more experience talking to women and getting comfortable?