Can't read this girl, srsly. Thoughts are appreciated

Pluglord · 2017-06-16T15:20:54+00:00

You ruined it by being a nice guy.

Next.

Jack__Knife · 2017-06-16T15:24:39+00:00

Fucking thank her and ask for more! Tell her it made you want to hold her against the wall and do dirty things, and it's HER fault!

recyclablebanthas · 2017-06-16T15:36:05+00:00

This belongs in /r/askseddit as it is asking advice for a specific situation / girl

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Also, don't worry about it! You didn't do anything wrong since you didn't know

recyclablebanthas · 2017-06-16T15:52:48+00:00

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I can say it went well....

Really? Let's look at the list.

she didn't like some "gentleman" moves I made like opening a door to her and offering to pay the bill.

....we went to the movies....she didn't want to talk or anything because she was scrolling her phone ....and avoiding eye contact.

....we were holding hands, but she took hers off after a couple mins because "it was enough".

So, she was turned off because of your "gentlemanly" gestures, which could have come off rather "white knight" like. **But more importantly, the point is, if she's not feeling it, she'll know almost immediately after meeting you, and she'll simply be taking everything wrong. If she had been into you, she probably would have found it charming that you opened a door for her or offered to pay the bill.

Also, she was on her phone and avoiding eye contact. Bad sign.

And you went for her hand, which was a good, bold move, but then she took her hand back and verbally rebuffed you.

It went well, in the sense that this girl didn't waste your time and was clear in her lack of interest. But it went poorly if you wanted something here. But again, if this girl isn't into you, then you don't really want something there anyway.

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I didn't build sexual attraction during the dinner....

Good god man, cut yourself some slack. This stuff isn't on such a brutal timer. It's not like you lose your chance if you don't find a way to escalate during dinner. Also, a small distinction: one doesn't "build" attraction. It's a mutual discovery process.

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I had no freaking idea of what I was doing at that time. I knew shit about how attraction works, frame, and these stuff.

You were FINE. If she had been into you, she'd have forgiven any missteps. What you did was good, in the sense that you put yourself out there and did so strongly enough that she responded with a reaction that told you where she stood.

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Later when I was taking her home she shit tested me (I think my response was beta-oriented) and I had no clue that chicks from Brazil did that (imo this attitude suits better NA chicks). I dropped her at her place and didn't make a move, sad and pathetic, I know.

Couple things here:

No, not pathetic. You don't force a move on a girl who's made it clear she's not up for it. That's sexual assault.
Also, she probably didn't shit test you; she just didn't seem too interested.
Girls from Brazil do have an attitude, as a general rule. It's one of their good points. ;) Always know where they stand, and they pretty much encourage you to put up or shut up. Which is what you need to do, anyway.

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After this, I'm pretty sure she put me in the friend zone.

Here's the thing. You ought to be turned off after that date also. Why then, after that shitty date, are you overlooking all the unattractive things, like her being on her phone or avoiding eye contact, etc.? This shit is a two-way street. Imagine if you did what she did. Would you expect that this girl would be excited to see a dude who avoided eye contact and scrolled on her phone like that?

Then why do you find it attractive in her? Maybe this friendzone thing should be mutual.

Title	Can't read this girl, srsly. Thoughts are appreciated
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Date	June 16, 2017 3:04 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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