I recently dated a woman who I went on a date with recently, a few months after I approached her. I noticed she had a monogamous boyfriend when I added her on Facebook and eventually deleted her. She not long after asked me why I deleted her, to which I pointed out her boyfriend, which understandingly accepted. Not along after she sent me a message telling me her boyfriend is into the same Japanese jazz-fusion band as I am. I decided to add her again, having noted she was taking an interest in me.

She broke up with her boyfriend a few weeks on Facebook and openly advertised she was single on Facebook. I sent her a message that day talking to her about some gelato palour downtown and decided to ask her out. She initially kindly rejects the offer because of her break up but eventually was eager to meet up that Saturday evening. She later admitted that she was anticipating that I asked her out because she found me attractive when I approached and briefly encountered her in public on another occasion. She sent me a message on the following the day asking what I was looking for from her. I responded with that I was exploring and looking for non-monogamous relationships, as a polycurious person. She later speculates that she cheated on her boyfriend (thus triggering the break up) because she needed more variety in her romantic and sexual life. We talk about polyamory for a bit and I send her a link to Franklin Veux's 'More Than One' website and a YouTube channel called Open Lifestyle.

We met up on Saturday night at the same gelato place I mentioned before and further discussed about polyamory, her relationship, our family and social justice. We decide to get tea at a local desert cafe and further discussed about our shared interest for IDM artists like Aphex Twin, Autechre, Squarepusher and various other leftfield electronic music. I told her a good deal about my current dating life and sexual history, because I am an open book that way. She wasn't comfortable with me kissing her, but she was okay with holding hands and hugging her. We then went to a nearby bar and bought fries, where the conversation began to mellow down because it was past midnight. We missed our bus home and decided to catch an uber, due to public being infrequent late at night. We don't end up having sex because she wasn't comfortable with the physical escalation. She later admits over Facebook that she wasn't comfortable with me touching her entirely.

After asking her out for a second date, she informs me over messenger that she wants an exclusive relationship and is not down for polyamory. She told that she would end up hurting a lot of people if she tried polyamory. She also mentioned that she has a friends with benefits, which is a 'complicated matter' in and of itself and wasn't down to be FWBs with me due to the fact she has 'specific sexual needs' despite the fact I am 'gorgeous' and 'intelligent'. I decided giving her some time would be sensible and so we have decided check back with her within a month. In the mean time, I have one other dating lead to take care of. Unfortunately I have been going through a dryspell for the past year since I first had sex as a result of 'cold approaching'.