I can easily pick up girls at social event but I'm barely invited to anywhere...

cjnu · 2017-08-16T16:13:42+00:00

Pull your antisocial group of friends to a club or a bar. You'll come up as the alpha male of the group and that will strengthen your frame or you could sign up for a sports class or dancing class. They are a great way for people to meet new people.

Summitscape- · 2017-08-17T01:45:00+00:00

How about you do the inviting? Be the guy that brings people together.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-08-17T08:12:11+00:00

__1__

I can easily pick up girls at social event but I'm barely invited to anywhere... I don't have any friends at all.

Not necessary to be invited. There are plenty of open events. You can go meet people and make friends.

Hash runs. Trail running + beer + fit people = win
Couchsurfing meets. Hang with travelers and people who like to be around travelers.
Social partner dancing. Salsa, Tango, Lindy hop, West coast swing, etc. You really can't go wrong. Learn something fun and have an excuse to be close to a girl in a fun and non-threatening way. Also, it really helps bring "kino" to another level.
Download the Meet-up app. Scan for groups near you that you share an interest with.

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Going to bars alone is not a thing in my country since people go to clubs or bars with their friends (not to meet people)

PM me your country because this sounds like bullshit. I haven't been to every country, but I've been to a number of places around Europe and Asia and while there are certainly places where locals don't feel comfortable going out alone, there hasn't been a place yet where they give two fucks if you came alone.

Game is game and all game is, is socializing. You NEVER need a group for that. There is no reason you can't just go to a bar and start chatting up the bartenders in a friendly way, and lead from that, to talking to others around you.

__3__

I tried Tinder but I don't have any interesting or professional photos (since I barely go to anywhere)

There's no reason why you can't run Tinder in the background. Something like this shouldn't ever be the only method. It's just something you might refer to every so often and text someone to see if they'll meet up. For the photos, you just need:

A full-body shot that shows exactly what you look like from a straight on angle.
A good face shot.
A candid shot of you with friends or coworkers.
And at least one shot of you doing something YOU find fun or interesting. (Fuck what others think. If this is a pic of you gaming, then whatever.)

__4: Next Level__

Realize that you can and should be doing things to create a social life for yourself. Think about this from an engineering perspective and reverse-engineer it. You need to establish friendships with at least a few men and women who fit the following categories, depending on what appeals to you:

Organizers: People who put together events.
People who work at bars and clubs: These people know what's up and can be your "in" to parties and events you wouldn't otherwise know about.
People who own a bar or club. If possible, be on good terms with them, if you end up interacting with them.
Social butterflies. Enough said. They often know about events also.

If you meet such people, spend some time with them and find out what makes them tick. Relate to them. Offer them good energy. If possible, offer to help them out. That could be as simple as saying that you can bring some people to an event they will hold or to their venue. If they think of you as someone who will bring people, they will always let you know about events.

Last point on this: Consider NOT gaming women who fit into these categories. They can improve your access and your overall experience at night. Don't kill the golden goose on the off chance you might end up on bad terms with one of them: then you'd be cut off, which is worse.

Jack__Knife · 2017-08-16T19:59:05+00:00

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Title	I can easily pick up girls at social event but I'm barely invited to anywhere...
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Date	August 16, 2017 3:49 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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