How do I handle the shame of having been rejected by a girl?

2017-11-17T12:51:37+00:00

I would just add: There is no shame in being rejected. There is no shame in trying. Any man deep down inside will have mad respect for someone that tries to make his life better. We're all in this together, we all have the same experiences. So, only an idiot would make fun of you for being rejected, real men would be proud that you tried- whether you succeed or not.

jcoop1972 · 2017-11-17T13:31:08+00:00

Screw it! No need for shame, it’s all in your head. I chased a girl through high school, crazy about her, do anything for her and everyone else saw it but me. Hell she lost her virginity to one of my best friends and he knew how I felt. Yet my dumb ass was still there when she called, no questions asked. Her choice in men was horrible, she was always with guys that didn’t care about her. Still yet I was there. I felt no shame about it. Like I said I was crazy about her, then finally I got it. She would dangle the carrot the last time. So I said all that to say this You feel what you feel, the key is that for every girl you talk to, every one that you crush on and get friend zoned, there are the same amount that are looking at you the same way. Do they look as good? Dress as nice? Have the money or the means to live a good life? Not always, but if you slow down and look around you, there is someone that is thinking about you. Don’t ashamed that you struck out, get back up and take your time. In the end, when the young girls that peaked in high school don’t have mommy and daddy’s money anymore and the rest of the “in crowd” had moved along, you will find that they aren’t as picky about the little things. Hold your head high and proud that you were man enough to pursue. There are some people that never will have the ambition you do. If your friends try to beat you up over it, tell them to fuck off. At least you tried. They need to go back to their mom’s basement. Sorry for the extended rant, I was picked on, and pushed aside for others for more years than I like to remember. Then one day found that I just didn’t care what people thought of me. Life changing event for me.

TR;DR Don’t feel shame for trying, love, companionship comes along when you are not looking. People can be shallow and never see the true person, you don’t need them in your lives.

2017-11-17T12:56:54+00:00

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Title	How do I handle the shame of having been rejected by a girl?
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Comments	3
Date	November 17, 2017 11:49 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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