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fallinshelter · 2017-12-01T18:45:14+00:00

This is speculation, but it’s a ll I can think of without actually seeing the interaction. I think she wanted to kiss you before you tried to tease her. You then went in for the kiss and “broke away.” Leaving her wanting. Assuming she’s a bit drunk it’s not a stretch to think that she just wanted to get you more drunk so she’d be in your sites. (Keep in mind she doesn’t know 100% that you want her specifically.)

But it also seemed a strange situation, maybe she just wanted to break any awkwardness that arose, if there was any.

Now for the second bit... in the entire fr you didn’t mess up at all, despite the fact that you think you fucked up giving her your number and her not responding etc. You got exactly what you could that night, a one night romance.

The fact of the matter is, it’s veryyyy difficult to get into a relationship with someone you escalate heavily with in a very short amount of time( ie bars, parties.) the escalation far exceeds any investment emotionally or otherwise. It’s just plain awkward to pick up after such a frantic start.

And to the reason why i responded to your post, i felt a similar emptiness to in a similar time when understanding attraction. What I learned is the emptiness comes from not actually connecting with the people you are with. You won’t fill that void at a bar either. Try finding people in your life to pursue and getting closer to them. The lack of relationship is that void.

But don’t get me wrong, making out with chicks at a party is not a bad thing at all. Comparatively it’s like eating McDonald’s (usually pretty good) to eating a home cooked meal by mamma (bad ass always.) the thing is you can’t live off of McDonald’s alone..

Conor_Niggregor · 2017-12-01T20:20:20+00:00

Should have taken the first girl home if she was hot enough.
When you were outside with the girl, you should have tried to pull.

She hasn't called me. It's probably over at this point.

Getting a girls number at a night club seldom turns into anything fruitful. Giving her YOUR number... I wouldn't even bother, but you obviously don't live in America, so maybe it's different.

Another fuck up

Just fuckin great!

You care way too much. Did you plan on marrying this girl?

In conclusion: You care too much and I think that's what pushed her away when you went to her that last time. You should have pulled instead of trying to exchange numbers. She's not gonna call you, so just forget about her.

BestSC86 · 2017-12-01T18:47:34+00:00

You aren't that far away....

But let me be brunt...what exactly are you trying to do exactly?

Kiss random girls in a dark crowded dance club? What does that get you? Why would you want exactly to do that? As you are finding out, that isn't going to make any sort of lasting impression on these girls and frankly I don't want to be kissing a girl who might have kissed 4 other dudes in the last hour?

You seem to really have no idea what your goal is with these girls at all. Is it to take them home that evening to fuck? Is it to build a connection with them so that they want to go out later or relationship? Is it just to have a partner for the night with whom to dance and talk and party? What do you want from the girls?

And knowing this goal leads to your real main problem....your lack of being a man and taking charge in moving the interactions toward your goal. You don't seem to have done any research on here, on TRP or youtube as to what is expected about the responsibilities of a MAN in dating\pickup\sex.

Because no knowledgeable MAN would ever give his number to a girl and expect this girl to reach out to him looking for a date or to meet up? Where in hell did you get the impression that you could leave your number with a girl and expect her to come courting you with dates and Netflix\chills?

YOU ARE THE MAN...and it is your responsibility to lead every dating interaction to whatever your goal is.

You seem to have a leg up on most dudes here in that you are attractive enough to get approaches from women which is really the hardest part....the rest of this stuff is simply knowing what a man is supposed to do and what you can expect from meeting girls in dance clubs and what you can not expect, ie, don't expect a girl whom you met in a dance club to be up for calling you and setting up regular dates sometime next week, that isn't how club girls work. And you have to work on learning about how to be a fun, entertaining guy for the entire night that the girl enjoys partying the night away with....not just getting pulls away autistically for a quick grope and kiss in the middle of a dirty club. By being fun, engaging and attractive, the girl will want to party with you, have her friends meet this great cool dude she attracted and if you keep that going for the night...she might just go home with you with the encouragement of her friends to fuck your brains out just to keep the party going.

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Date	December 1, 2017 6:08 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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