[40M] Questions - Frustrated about Social Situation/Not Going Out

Conor_Niggregor · 2018-01-07T02:14:52+00:00

I can't get my (apparently lame) friends to do anything. Everyone is always busy, or they can't decide where to go so nobody gets out, and if you try to plan in advance, it's like herding cats, and we don't go anywhere

you need better friends.. younger friends

HOW do I meet people - whether in the apartment complex or anywhere else?

join a gym and just lift with other guys. friendships will form. also try meetup.com

HOW do I find social markets and groups of people that are willing to include me in their lives enough that I can find something to do on the weekends?

meetup.com and also the mormon church has groups called "Young Single Adults" and "Single Adults" (ages 31+). However, Mormons marry ASAP, so any girl in the Single Adults group most likely will be a reject. And any hot girls there are most likely divorced.

WHAT is wrong with me that I'm in this absurd place of isolation?

You just need get out, brah. and to the right venues.

IS this an age issue? I turned 40 this year and I just feel like there's no place for me in my city and I feel like my friends are all over going out, stuck in their cliques, or in relationships where they don't want a third-wheel. How do I solve this?

Easy. You need to optimize your look so you appear younger (dress better, gain muscle, lose fat, anti-aging regimen) and hang out with people who are 15-20 years younger than you are. Because imo, people start to get boring even around 25yo.

How am I supposed to date, if I can't even be social or find people who want new friends and will include them in their circles?

Oh, btw, did you know not know the purpose of this sub was to learn "cold approach pickup"? which is basically walking up to strangers and meeting them.

2018-01-07T05:16:33+00:00

Throw parties.

Bob101010Squirrel · 2018-01-07T06:17:09+00:00

I also think meetup.com is a good idea because you will meet people with similar interests and have something to chat and bond about. I am guessing you have already tried online dating?

2018-01-08T08:18:24+00:00

Psh, I'm 18 years old and I basically have this problem so no it's not an age issue

Title	[40M] Questions - Frustrated about Social Situation/Not Going Out
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Date	January 7, 2018 1:12 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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