'Alphas never explain themselves'?

Nitrobroom · 2014-12-06T06:14:24+00:00

There's alpha and then there's 'personality disordered'.

frequentlywrong · 2014-12-06T08:25:49+00:00

Explaining yourself gives them power to criticize and question you, while not providing any benefit to you. In fact it makes you look less secure in your decision, because you felt the need of others peoples input.

Not explaining yourself is a leadership quality and everyone finds it attractive, because they subconsciously think the other person knows what it is doing (because he feels no need to tell others).

Yet she is clearly several points above him in the attraction department- comsidering the fact that he is fat and balding, the fact that they ended up together is testament to his alpha qualities, isn't it?

Male physical attraction is way less important than female physical attraction. Women are primarily attracted to status and a confident personality, men are attracted to looks and feminine (friendly) personalities. Resist the urge to project (you are attracted to looks and assume they are as well).

his physical state is miserable even as he enjoys all the benefits of an alpha (status, power, etc)

He concentrates on exactly what he requires to secure a good woman and nothing else. A perfectly valid strategy, employed by a huge chunk of men. Wealth and women are the two most important things in life. If you disagree you are deluding yourself. He seems to be quite successful at both if he is wealthy as you say.

I don't understand this man. Is he alpha?

Don't think in those simplified terms.

Nitrobroom · 2014-12-06T08:00:20+00:00

think about it likes this - Alphas will never say more than needed

masterrod · 2014-12-06T15:14:57+00:00

He literally will not explain a situation even when he's supposed to be helping you, regardless of what you ask. His wife said he 'refuses to take responsibility for anything'.

Not explaining and not taking responsibility are not the same thing. IMO, a real leader doesn't have take responsibility as long as he plots a course for improvement. Responsibility of an even is a bit transient, but responsibility for the direction is the most important.

Yet she is clearly several points above him in the attraction department- comsidering the fact that he is fat and balding, the fact that they ended up together is testament to his alpha qualities, isn't it?

Timing also is a factor. Hard to see in another person's mind.

I've seen him botch his wife's and friends' business up repeatedly simply because he was leading and they had no clue what he was doing- and he refused to tell them. Yet they stick to him like his money is glue.

His money?

It's like he refuses to give a shit about anything apart from money. It's amazing and yet sad at the same time, because his physical state is miserable even as he enjoys all the benefits of an alpha (status, power, etc) thanks to his wealth. I don't understand this man. Is he alpha?

Did he make the money on his own?

He consistently gets away with annoying people by not explaining, simply because the power and money lures them back. I can't- without the money, I'd get shot down. So it comes to this: what is an effective way of not explaining oneself? I want this leadership quality, but I don't want to or rather can't do it in the way he does- pissing people off.

Explaining and gaining favor are two different things. You need to focus on getting people to buy into your vision of the world, or in a project. It's not as much as explaining as it's gaining buyin. So you explain or show why someone would follow your lead then lead. Apparently this person has clout because he has money, so people just fall in line. He has the money, he acts the part, people will play their role. People will always be annoyed at one thing or another, but if they follow it doesn't much matter.

I_Cum_Blood_666 · 2014-12-07T09:03:44+00:00

He is alpha and has an understanding of frame. When he's being followed, they're in his frame. As soon as they question him, they are demanding that he verify/justify himself in their frame, and they impose their frame into his. He's got a brick wall in between his frame and theirs. Sounds pretty boss to me.

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Title	'Alphas never explain themselves'?
Author	Nitrobroom
Upvotes	6
Comments	20
Date	December 6, 2014 4:12 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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