How to come back when she lost interest in you but still dating?

WIA20XX · 2018-05-22T10:49:19+00:00

I'm not here to coddle your ego.

You probably fucked up.

And not some general fuck up, like missing the anniversary of your first date, but in your overall approach to dealing with the girl.

You probably put her at the center of your life, she probably has you by the balls. You're probably super reliable.

You didn't actually describe your situation, but that's the usual issue.

And she's probably lost interest much earlier than you think. You're just noticing it more/now.

Why? Why did she love you at first, but started going cold?

Girls get immune to your charms over time.

But like most, they are averse to loss.

So instead of you losing her, she needs to start losing you.

Start pulling back.
Stop giving her attention every second, whenever she wants.
Start hanging with your bros.
Step up your gym regimen and your diet.
New clothes, cologne, and haircut.
Make it a point to go out to social events and meet new people. Guys and girls.
And obviously change it up in bed.

Tell her what's up through your actions, not your words.

Talking to her about your feelings is what they would tell you in a dating sub, but unless you've got real options, all your chatter is hollow.

Girls don't give a fuck about how you feel. They care about how they feel.

There is nothing wrong with self interest. Most guys become selfless in relationships, the girls only do that for a time.

She doesn't have to be.
She doesn't need to keep most guys happy.
She doesn't need to work at it, for most guys.

Her presence is a present. (In her mind, based on your actions)

By just being female, there are enough thirsty guys out there, that will gladly, just be a new fun guy.

Lots of chicks do get hypnotized by new, bright, shiny, objects. A girl in a stale relationship is much easier to pull than a single girl.

Humans are basically novelty driven, and girls have much more opportunity to get into new situations.

So Unless she realizes what she has, and that other girls want it, you'll be playing catchup forever.

Willing to bet that you're not going to do a thing though.

I haven't even recommended deeper changes,, just surface level stuff. And I'm willing to bet that most guys on your situation reading right now, wouldn't even do one thing on the list.

Most guys have to learn this lesson the hard way. They want tips and tricks, not transformation. They only finally change after great pain, the pain of losing the girl.

And then when they truly admit that what they learned about women as a whole is wrong.

Then they can change

MindifIHitDatMF_YEET · 2018-05-22T08:13:38+00:00

My best advice would be to maybe be more distant or hang out with other girls. Once you become needy, the power structure shifts and you become less attractive and fulfilling in some ways. If she knows you can get with other women whenever, she might be more into you, but be careful of course (don't cheat if it will ruin everything and that's not what you want).

Rendedpuppy · 2018-05-22T08:54:17+00:00

Honestly as a last ditch attempt you could friend zone her like call her a good friend or "Your like a little sis To me"

People want what they can't have. This removes the needyness because what less needy that telling someone they aren't sexually interesting. Then try and get her to qualify herself.

Title	How to come back when she lost interest in you but still dating?
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Date	May 22, 2018 7:11 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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