I want to preface this post by first saying that I'm pretty inexperienced in dating in general so everything I'm about to say may sound completely stupid.

So I'm a 21 year old guy and I've never had a serious girlfriend and have only been on dates with 10 different girls in my life. I've noticed a pretty annoying trend in the girls I've went out with. Every single girl that I've went out with and did something sexual with on the first date has been obsessed with me, and every single girl that I didn't do anything sexual with isn't interested after the first date. Maybe this is just a coincidence but I don't think so. I have a theory on it and it's that they think I'm "cute", which we all know is a death sentence. I'm a soft spoken guy, have been told I have a "cute" face, and am not really big either (5' 9", 175 lbs) which checks off all the boxes to coming off as "cute" to girls, which is friend material, not boyfriend material. So my thinking is by impressing them sexually they get over the "cute" hump and become more attracted to me. The reason this sucks is because I just naturally feel different around girls that I like and usually only do sexual things with a girl on the first date if I don't see the relationship going anywhere. Does anyone think there is any merit to this theory? Again, this may be completely stupid.

The reason I'm asking about this is because I recently just went on a date with a girl that I really liked. She was cute, had a great personality, and we had a lot in common. We met on tinder, she seemed VERY interested for the time leading up to the first date and a few days after until we made plans again and she cancelled, rinse and repeat that 3 times until I finally got the message. Then she gave me some spiel about how she promises that she is still very interested in me and she "hopes" we can hang out again, but when she meets new people she tends to back off because she's been hurt too much. Which if you ask me is a bunch of BS and is a cover up for the real reason why she was turned off. She called me cute several times after the first date on snapchat and over text so I feel like that was the reason that she wasn't interested, because I didn't come across as "manly" enough. It really sucked because I think she's the most I've liked a girl after a single date, she was awesome. But here I am again, in the same god damn position, with no second date with a girl that I really liked.