Went on a date with a girl, says she wants to just be friends because she's hung up on her ex...feeling crushed and confused

WIA20XX · 2018-06-06T12:06:47+00:00

Based on your language, you should be asking this on a dating board or a female heavy board. They'll protect your ego, give you (false) hope, so you feel okay.

This is a seduction board. I'm not going to tell you pretty little lies to make you feel better.

A seducer is the guy she met out of nowhere, had a whole lot of fun with, he's not really her type, but somehow they ended up in bed the very same night, very same day, on the first night.

That's not what you did.

You came at the chick like a perfect gentleman with all of that taking care of her, protecting her stuff. Dinner? On the first date? As a rookie? Inviting some random broad to celebrate your graduation with family and friends?

shaking my head

You basically giving her a preview of the life you were going to offer her.

So if she just got out of a relationship, that behavior is smothering (and possibly triggering,)

So when you treated her like a potential girlfriend, she did her potential boyfriend analysis.

You failed to meet her boyfriend criteria.

Embrace that shit.

Boyfriend criteria is way higher than guys she'd fuck a couple of times.

How tall are you, how rich are you, what do you with your free time, what are your friends like, do you make her feel safe....etc. An endless list of things that you have to meet, none of which she can actually articulate, but judges you for anyway.

But the cheat code here is that the guy she fucks, can easily be backwards rationalized into being a boyfriend.

So, stop treating her like a girlfriend.

Don't try to nice your way into the pussy.

DaddyB0d · 2018-06-06T12:07:14+00:00

Dude. Pause for a moment and reflect on the misery YOU are causing YOURSELF.

You 'invested' one month chasing some girl. It didn't pan out for whatever reason. Now, you're going to eat yourself up with self-doubt and regret and sorrow?

This is what happens when you are operating from SCARCITY. In your own zipcode, there are literally 1,000 of women that you could connect with. Why do you think you need this particular one? (and realize that any justification you invent is fantasy bullshit).

You are hurting yourself.

Text her one word: "Interesting". The second you hit send, delete all her contact info. ALL of it. Do not allow the possibility of reconnecting with her in a moment of weakness. Ghost her.

In one month, you won't even remember her name, and you'll be better off for it.

Title	Went on a date with a girl, says she wants to just be friends because she's hung up on her ex...feeling crushed and confused
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Date	June 6, 2018 11:34 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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