Progression

Preamble

I was a total recluse from my childhood to the end of college. I graduated with an EE degree, and two acquaintances. I dated three women up to this point. In all three relationships, I had no idea what I was doing. Either the woman, or some other PUA helping me out pushed things along. The last one worked well for a while, because we are both autistic. So, everything was laid out explicitly.

I was alone for 4 years of electrical engineering, and I was miserable. I decided to reset, and now I am working to get into the blue collar world, where I have more positive social and work interactions. In improving my happiness, and many other things in my life, I am working on my game.

I (29/M) am doing this by working from the framework of, "The Game," and, "The Mystery Method." As an autistic person, I like the idea of using canned material. However, I assume that most or enough women have already heard this material. So, I am in the process of swapping out Mystery's material with my own. Mystery advocated for this anyway in his book. Also, Mystery mentions that you need to develop your own screening for women, and during the comfort phase you are supposed to relay your own personal stories anyway. I take it that, "flirting is not lying," applies only in the attraction phase, and once you pass that, you can reveal true stories as long as they are framed a certain way. I view, "The Mystery Method," as a way to can or package yourself. I don't see it as only canned material.

My two goals are to make women laugh and to get a girlfriend. I always was a class clown in school. So, I enjoy the attention from getting people to laugh. I always wanted to say that I competently maneuvered through the dating process to get a girlfriend. I never cared about looks. I care more about attracting a woman who held a job for more than 2 years, held a relationship for more than 2 years, is a little demure, and likes at least 2 nerdy things (anime, manga, some STEM topic, etc.).

Progression 1

I have a balbo beard, and I have a tight collared shirt. I worked out just before I sarge to boost my confidence. I am 150lb and 6ft 2in. My skin is sadly holey from teenage acme. I learned from the last sarge to keep in contact until the woman leaves. I cannot tell if they are into me or not due to autism. So, assume they are attracted in me until they leave. I would like to believe that my assumption is validated by the fact that I can maintain women's interest now for at least 15 min.

I went to a dead bar, there was nothing but girls on casino machines. Someday I will figure out how to game them. However, I know from a study that their brains look, under an MRI, like they are doing cocaine. So, that would be a rough game to play, because I would be competing with the motivation to do cocaine. For now, I go to a more upscale bar.

I sit between a dude on my left, and a chick on my right. I pull out a deck of cards and ask the bartender if he wants to see some tricks. The bartender said, "No, the last guy who showed me card tricks, I beat up." I said, "OK." I turn to the dude on my left. I offer him card tricks. He said, "No, the last guy who showed me card tricks..." He trails off. So, I put the cards away. It is a bad start. I assume the girl on my right is listening despite her smart phone usage, because I read a study that on average, women switch tasks faster than men.

Ok, I switch tack, and I start telling jokes I memorized from r/jokes. Now, I have tried many different jokes on many different people. Based on past experience, I figured I would go for the stupid pun jokes. Jokes like, "Once I asked my dad why he has a lion and witch in his wardrobe. He said, "That is Narnia business." Did you hear that Bruce Willis died from a viagra overdose? He died hard. What do you call a bouncer in a gay bar? A flamethrower."

I get a combo of laugh/groans from the guy. Phone girl doesn't react. Despite the groaning, the guy liked my jokes. He started wanting a conversation with me. Well, then a new woman sits next to phone girl. They start talking as if they were together all along. The game has changed. I now have a two set to my right. I tap on the new lady's shoulder. She looks like she is in her early 40's. I later find out her name is Julie. Phone girl looks like she is in her late 20s. Phone girl is my target.

I open with more pun/reframe jokes. Phone girl tries to butt into my jokes. So, I neg her. "Is she always this way?" I tell a dark joke, and Julie turns away from me to talk to phone girl. I think phone girl didn't get the joke, and Julie is explaining it to phone girl.

I start talking to the guy on my left again. I use the FORD method. I want to show that I don't care about the outcome. I am already happy that I made Julie and phone girl laugh. I turn back to Julie with my deck of cards in hand. I pull out my three magic tricks, "Here is your card. 4 Kingdoms. 4 Bank Robbers."

Now, something changed after I did my first trick. Phone girl took my deck, and did a simple card trick that I know already. I didn't need to neg her, because she messed up the trick. This part is important, because after I finish my more advanced tricks, the game changed again. Phone girl stopped talking to me entirely. She stopped butting in. She lost all interest in me. However, Julie turned completely towards me. Her legs were open. At this point I think, "Uh, I think my target changed from phone girl to Julie."

I think I moved from A1. Now, I am in A2 with Julie already. I figured I needed to DHV. So, I tell a true story about how I was on a date, and a waiter stuck his finger in my date's ice cream to wipe it on her nose. I threaten to call the city health inspector. This is an example of me using my own life material to DHV, because I really am the shit, and I know it. I add pauses, emotion, energy, and I talk about the emotions of the moment. I think I overdid it, because Julie's reaction was shock at the drama of the story.

Now, at this point my story usually pushes me into A3. However, I haven't calibrated for A3 yet. I haven't built much material for A3. So, I think this is where I messed up. I just did the, "Do you believe in magic?" routine. I did palm reading to escalate kino. I did, "The Cube," routine to migrate into C1 where I was about to execute FORD. At some point I lost frame when she threw me a hoop. However, towards the end, she was telling me how single she was. She was telling me all about how great her life was. She was trying to win me over. I think I gave far too many IODs. I kept turning my head to the side like, "I don't care." The more IODs I gave, the harder she DHV'd. This was the first time I had a woman trying to win me over, and I was reveling in it. However, I failed to use compliance tests, and I failed to use the Bait, Hook, Catch, Release method. I also didn't use a false time constraint. I will remember next time now.

Phone girl, who I found out was Julie's daughter, asked to leave. I asked Julie for her number. She gladly gave it to me. I waited a day, then I called Julie for a coffee date. As I read more of, "The Mystery Method," I realized in retrospect that I wasn't supposed to get a number. I was supposed to say something like, "Hey, I need to drop something off for a friend at this coffee shop on Saturday. I think it would be fun if you were there." Then, I should have secured a time bridge. Mystery mentioned that numbers don't matter, tight game, and future meetings matter more.

Anyway, I get Julie's answering service, and I left a message inviting her to coffee. She never called back. So, game over. HOWEVER, this is the first number I ever got from my own efforts. Also, this is the first time a woman tried to DHV for me. So, I view this as a total success in my eyes. As I use my own life material to replace Mystery's material, and as I calibrate, I am advancing further and further down the M3 model. Also, I am proud that even though, "Autism is characterized by static mental processes," I was able to adapt and adjust to the two game changes. I securely made it to A3 with a woman. I just need to fill out more DHV stories, compliance tests, challenges, etc. I need to rewire my brain to automatically detect hoops, and I need to rewire my brain to execute compliance tests and Bait-Hook-Catch-Release routines. Overall, I am pretty happy about my success.