Recently, I went out to eat with a buddy. Upon going out, I had no intentions of picking up as I was spinning plates at the time. I noticed one of the waitresses was attractive. Turns out she was our waitress.

She didn’t speak the best English; she was a Cuban native. Fortunately I speak SOME Spanish. Initially; she tried to ignore me at first, not making any eye contact with me at all or standing close to me. Although I had been to this restaurant before- I asked her: what’s good from here? She stepped closer to me.

This is when I began trying to speak Spanish to her. I’m half Mexican. Mexican Spanish is different than Cuban Spanish but it’s the same; if that makes sense. She seems to like the way I speak Spanish and is responding by standing very close to me and even touching me periodically.

At one point I get deep into a conversation with my buddy (a guy I’ve known for 13 years) idk about what but who cares. She says to me, while staring me dead in my eye, “your accent is sexy.” I don’t really respond immediately because I’m so immersed into a separate conversation so I just keep that on. She repeats herself a little louder and seemingly embarrassed, slight blush; “your accent is sexy!”.

I’ve been hit on by girls at this restaurant before, bc it is known for having attractive women, but I never take t seriously. For me this is just an exercise of my game for my own entertainment. Back to the main idea- no I didn’t spread her right there and fuck her; or even get her number. But after I left I did think about her and what transpired. I wished I would’ve gotten her number.

Fast forward to another time- I was seated on the floor and she has transitioned to the bar. The bar is completely full. The woman I spoke of previously is making strong eye contact with me from across the room and I also catch her looking at me several times. When the bar finally opens up (I’ve had a few drinks; literally just a few) I dash over to the open seat.

I try to hit her with the same game as last time but this time she is unreceptive compared to our last interaction. She asks me for my ID, even though I obviously already have a drink, and I take that as a subconscious way to diss me but I show no offense taken. She seemed as if she was in a hurry to get off work, it was the end of her shift, so I didn’t push it.

I’m wondering, for the next occurrence, what I should try to do? Obviously she had got me in my head. Obviously I’ve cuaght oneitis for her but I understand if things don’t work out for whatever reason that she is not the only woman in the world. I’m not afraid of rejection, I just think I have a realistic chance and I don’t want to fuck it up. But I repeat- if it doesn’t workout for whatever reason I will be fine.

Or- have I fucked it up already and shouldn’t waste any more time trying? Any constructive criticism is welcomed and will be greatly appreciated.