Note: Wall. Of. Text. TL;DR: Can engage and generate interest. But not the right interest or not enough. (?)

Hey everyone -

I get sent (or send myself) to a tech conference 3 or 4 times a year. It seems to be a very on time for me in terms of approaching women or anyone else. I have found that the badges are very useful, if you walk up to someone and say,

'Hey, [name on badge]! What it like at [company / location on badge] using [technology I am at a conference for]'?

Or

'Come on [name on badge]! Sit with us already, me and [person I met two minutes ago] have been waiting for you! Sheesh!'

People like being asked to talk, and respond extremely well to you using their name. I can open the fuck out of tables of people, tables of women, women on the street, women at happy hours, women at party nights, whatever. Zero point zero anxiety regarding approaching and I definitely seem to get a percentage of them engaged with my personality and we can chat, and bullshit, and dance, and karaoke, and whatever. I've been told I am an amazing story teller, thanks for coming to our table and shaking things up, 'what makes you tick', blah blah. The point that is bugging me here is that I'm not getting cold rejected; people, including plenty of women, want me to spend a few hours with them at a festive environment.

But I cannot fucking close for shit. I know that the logistics are more difficult in a time compressed environment, but it is getting a bit frustrating to break way out of wallflower mode, start conversations with a zillion women, run around with them half the night, get numbers, clearly be a point of general laughter, generate what seem like IOUs, and then seem to have generated no actual sexual intent.

A few months ago in California I cold approached two girls and convinced them to crash a party with me that I wasn't invited to, and did not have the address for. (We got in and got drunk) Hung with them the next two nights and got shot down when I invited the target to stay out for drinks with me when her friend went to talk to an old buddy. Why'd she give me her cell phone and meet me out at a speakeasy if she wasn't interested? Why hang out with me half the night? The girl punched my arm fifteen times when I said something funny, looked at me anytime anyone said a joke, and was genuinely interested in my responses to any question. I ask her to stay out without her girl-buddy, and she disappears.

Last week another woman bailed with the third wheel when I went to the bathroom after spending a few hours on my arm and wanting to talk about 'deep stuff'? She was drunk AF, and I'd changed tact to just getting her home safely, but it still burned a little. Why be so touchy and flirty? Why lean into me and ask me about my history after knowing me an two hours? It's so weird, I've had a million women not want to ask me about my history, or poke my chest after a joke, or text me back, and these women seemed interested, but my results are exactly the same as had I done nothing.

My results at cold approach in normal life, not travelling, are largely similar, but above a zero success rate. (But I get a lot more opportunities, and more hot women, while traveling due to logistics and demographics). Basically I seem to be someone who can break into a group and become a crowd favorite to make things a more fun and interesting place, but have no ability to convert that ability into sexual currency.

Fitness is on point, and extremely on point for my age bracket. I am complimented on my style of dress with some frequency. I do not smell. Have no facial deformities and am average height. It does not seem to matter.