Why she says "no" at the last minute and what to do about it (LMR)

GET_IN_THE_VAN · 2018-11-30T01:56:19+00:00

Summary/TL;DW: This is a very touchy subject where there is a lot of misinformation. Obviously if a girl doesn't want to have sex, don't make her. However if it seems like she wanted to and then abruptly changes her mind you either misread the situation or something happened to make her change her mind. In this video I'm going to go over ways to prevent this.

0:54 Men and women like sex in different ways

2:40 Make sure your place is nice

3:23 Don't go for it right away

4:07 Have something to do

5:30 People want to feel important

7:30 Take your clothes off first

9:50 Communication is key

10:37 Her not wanting to have sex with you is ok

Aghayden · 2018-11-30T06:23:46+00:00

Overall really good content man.

One thing that's concerning to me though. You said that if she says "No, no, no, stop, in a flirty voice you can probably keep going on because she's probably teasing you."

Sometimes that is a form of flirtation/teasing - but sometimes women are just uncomfortable saying no in an assertive way in sexual situations because there's a lot of pressure and vulnerability and strong emotions involved.

Personally, if I hear a no - even if it sounds flirtatious - I make sure to get verbal consent before having sex with her. One way I do this is to say, "Tell me you want me to fuck you." Asking for verbal consent can be a turn-off, but that sentence is still dominant while giving the girl an opportunity to say yes or no.

The PUA community tends to say that if a girl emotionally wants to have sex with you in the moment, even if she's logically not sure about it, it's okay to proceed - but I disagree.

I want the girl to be completely bought in to the idea having sex with me and I don't want her to regret it the next day or feel like she was doing it partly due to being pressured.

Sex should feel like a win not just during the act, but afterwards too.

GET_IN_THE_VAN · 2018-11-30T13:35:13+00:00

This overcomplicates things. If she doesn't jump at your dong, leave or kick her skanky ass out and call up the next.

Title	Why she says "no" at the last minute and what to do about it (LMR)
Author	GET_IN_THE_VAN
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	November 30, 2018 1:55 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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