Before you hit your 'soon to be disappointing NYE party' tonight or maybe you don't even have one and are reflecting on what has led you to this point, take a moment to stop and think how this past year went with you and women.

If you are visiting this page regularly chances are things didn't go as well as you thought they should this year. Frequently when I ask my students about why they are not succeeding with women they say they are trying but not getting results. One student I had wanted to get a girlfriend but was not finding a good one off the dating apps he was using. Another student I had wanted to sleep with dozens of women but had only managed to have sex with 3.

Each student in this case had the same problem, they were not clear with their goals or how to get there. For the guy who wanted a girlfriend he was not clear about the kind of girl he wanted. For the guy wanting to sleep with many he had no plan to achieve it nor did he have a target number.

In both cases I went back with them and came up with concrete goals for the year and a plan to realize them. For the guy who wanted a girlfriend we figured out what kind of girl he wanted and some weekly activities where he would be able to meet such a girl. For the guy who wanted to sleep with dozens of women we dedicated days for him to go out to bars and clubs as well as optimizing his dating apps.

With clear goals and intentions in mind the results were astronomically different for both when the new year came. The guy who wanted a girlfriend, got one, and the guy who wanted to sleep with dozens of women slept with 20. In short, just having an idea of what you want is nowhere near as powerful as creating a clear goal and a plan to reach there. Regularly check in on yourself and see if you are getting closer throughout the year. If you are not, ask yourself why and fix it.

Remember, extraordinary goals require extraordinary effort!

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