I’m pretty charismatic. I talk to just about any and everyone I can regardless of the context. I still get a little nervous but am much more comfortable around really attractive women now(not thinking or at least overthinking what to say helps immensely).
I’m planning a big cut after some failed attempts(maintained instead of lost lbs) + moving + graduation have made it hard to do but once settled I’m set. I consider myself attractive, been told I’m cute(at clubs and stuff), I’m very athletic though and not fat. I’d say I’m somewhere between a bodybuilder and a power lifter. I have the muscle and good edition everywhere but my torso(it’s weird). Workout ~6x a week. I work at a gym and get looks from really attractive goers and when I was in college.
Hobbies could be better but I picked up/refined my stuff in 2018.
But, I’ve been feeling frustrated and mainly depressed lately. Confidence has taken a dip again too.
I didn’t date at all in college(not a virgin but didn’t have hookups either) and found the biggest problem being the girls I liked already had bf’s (for real, not the type where they just say that to make you go away).
I get matches every once in a while on tinder and bumble but it goes nowhere.
At work everyone is already in a relationship too, making these feelings worse. Doesn’t help my social circle feels reset too.
I asked r/AmIUgly and they said I looked fine aside from my teeth, but no ugly answers. I dont mention it as a serious metric but more to show I’ve tried reaching out to a lot of places.
there doesn't seem to be anything here