Dear all,

I’ve been thinking a little about my ex and why things happened how they did.

What I learnt is this :

• Let people speak and express their emotions, their hopes and dreams to be able to provide what they are looking for. • This made me score girls that were in a long-term relationship. • Never be too warm. Stay neutral or even cold and make the other person feel like they’re the only one holding the relationship together. • That is where my ex comes in. When she got rid of her ex-boyfriend to get together with me, she made him come to her (8 hour bus ride) and was rather cold which made him invest even more. Same with other exes, they were all chasing and completely heartbroken after she left them. Like she told me : she’s used to receive affection and thus she’s not used to giving it. That’s the worst thing I ever heard but it’s the truth. Showing you care only makes you weak and people will walk all over you if you do. • In fact, I did that again. I told her I cared, showed a lot of affection even though I’m not the type to do that much really. And that got me thinking for a second. How come she made me like this ? Because she was cold and I was affaid to lose her because I cared. And the more you invest the more you keep investing because you tell yourself that you have already invested this much and you can’t have done that for nothing. • So I became cold and she became colder making me forgive her for some of her bullshit. Hell, her ex forgave her cheating and waiting over a month to tell them. • So be colder than the other person but from time to time be warmer to be able to sculpt the ice and freeze up again.

Wish you guys the best. Learn from this.

If you’re curious, I dumped her.

Share your story in the comments below.

Peace !