Tonight I went out and got three numbers from chicks

  1. Seemed pretty cool and we got on well enough, got her details and she seemed intrigued. Didn't go for the kiss close.

  2. Started chatting to her and got her details she didn't seem too interested at first, but she really warmed to me and that one ended in with a kiss

  3. Got her details the conversation went well enough and she rejected the kiss close.

At first working out why a girl flakes on you can be confusing. Let's look at the above and in my case when it comes to tonight I am willing to bet that only the 2nd girl will end up responding or going anywhere. This is pretty obvious from the summaries of each interaction, first one gave friend vibes, third one was a bit meh but not into it. But the second one seemed to be a little more interested in a good way.

When you start out it can be overwhelming and with so much to take in and add some anxiety, you might fixate on getting her number or closing. Then when she ignores you it is upsetting and you think "but she gave me her number why would she do that if she wasn't into me?!" In reality the indicators were always there - I suggest you have faith that in time it will all come together and makes sense if you stick with approaching and practice.

I'm still going to hit them all up, but I won't be shocked if two thirds of the numbers I got tonight flake. That's the nature of the game. Don't take it personally when she flakes, instead try to think back to whether there were signs this was going to happen during the interaction.