Hi guys,

I am currently visiting Medellin for a few weeks, Colombia. (It's true what they say, Colombian women are incredible). I've been here for 3 weeks now, and I have another 4 weeks.

I am British, early thirties, speak fluent Spanish, dress pretty well, look pretty good, above average height, I can dance and use it in clubs (very important in Latin America)

I read seduction and pick-up advice about 6 years ago, (inner game, eye contact, kino, being playful etc..), and it changed my life, and then 4 years ago I decided to just continue to improve myself and "forget" about all pick up techniques because I felt like it became second nature, but I think I got complacent because of my circumstances. I have in fact gained more skills, experience in life and with women, more confidence, maturity, become better looking, more impressive abilities - in the last 4 years I tried to forget all seduction theory, and be natural, and it worked great. like I focused on myself and I thought it's enough, but I think I forgot some of the basics like how to be playful, a bit of more intense eye contact, being social and friendly and upbeat...

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I basically live in a Latin American country, but I am just visiting Colombia for a few weeks. I think I have become complacent because I normally live in a small city in Central America where I do get my fair share of sex, romance or girlfriends, but it is through an extended social circle or a small community I have in my city. Mainly run into girls that I already know of in quiet and peaceful environments or in a night club or bar, where I chat or I dance with them and I can always ask them out later because I know them. Everybody sort of knows everyone. I sort of can get away just being semi-shy, and I just talk to girls, and somehow stuff happens.

Well now I am in a city of 3-4 million people, and I have no social circle, and the girls are way way way hotter, and they are everywhere lol.

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  • I have never done a daytime approach, and I have strong approach anxiety. I tried to watch some motivational videos, read about it, try to start small with just giving compliments to girls, but I haven't been able to try even once. I read it's good to just ask for directions, but I find even that hard! haha it's funny, I get this idea that it is wrong to "pretend" to ask for directions, but I know it's for my own good, yet I haven't been able to gather the courage to do it.
  • In my day to day here in Medellin, I go to events, and I run into cute girls, but for some reason meeting girls for the first time in brief occasions for me feels wrong to "hit on them". I start to feel like I want to avoid doing uncomfortable things or making things awkward in run into the girl again. I have been trying to alter my mindset about talking to strangers or girls etc. I have tried to take cold showers, or chat to strangers more, be more positive and friendly, and I hope this will pay off haha - would love to hear any other advice.
  • I want to simply give a compliment to a girl, but it is always been hard for me to compliment a girl before I go on a date with her. I get this sensation of feeling stuck and unable to utter a compliment haha. I would really like to change this, but don't know how to overcome this. I've been meditating as well on better mindsets and self-affirmations... (for 2 weeks, not that long haha).
  • It seems that I have the belief that I ought to chat to a girl for for like 5 minute before I give her a compliment or ask for her number, and I haven't been able to ask any girls out here. I have fear of... I don't know what, expressing my intent verbally.
  • I do chat to girls I meet in events, but somehow I feel conversation dies out quickly, and I think maybe my mindset is not correct. It's not like this where I live, where encounters are not brief and I meet people I know of, and I know I will run into them. So I am struggling with the change of environment here.
  • Basically I feel I am good looking enough and confident enough to chat to girls. Girls even check me out here. I made some comment to a really hot girl in the gym who was working out next to me, and then she came over and asked me for my name, and then we spoke for 1 minute, and she said "if you need help with anything, just let me know..." and I just said "OK" hahaha. Stage fright. I froze, because girls are hot here on another level. I wish I could have just asked her out.

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I feel my post is full of different details, but it is mainly to paint a picture for you and perhaps someone can give me some pointers or advice. I appreciate help, guys :)