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Made a complete fool out of myself with this girl, how do I proceed? (Is this oneitis?)

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May 24, 2019

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Title	Made a complete fool out of myself with this girl, how do I proceed? (Is this oneitis?)
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	May 24, 2019 5:23 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/bsjn55/made_a_complete_fool_out_of_myself_with_this_girl/
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[–]floerae 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]yungsauce22 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]floerae 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]yungsauce22 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]floerae 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]yungsauce22 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I hear ya. The thing is the arguments resolve quickly and are never that deep.

As soon as we see each other in person everything is fine and we can’t keep our hands off of each other.

I agree with what you said though. I think cutting back the emotional side of things and just enjoying the sex when we hang out would be best.

The issue is definitely that she is still in an emotionally difficult place because she’s literally still in the process of getting a divorce.

Also I’m starting to realize that too. I don’t think anyone would ever think she’s ugly or that her body isn’t banging, but the point is that she has a hard time seeing it.

I feel for you ladies. Body image is so much more of a thing for females. It’s hard to love yourself sometimes.

Question: Even with guys literally paying to see you and all the validation that comes with it, you still don’t feel sexy? (Obv don’t feel like you have to answer, I’m just curious and want to understand)

[–]floerae 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

i mean i dont know much about how she's feeling but if you're wanting a relatuonship you could always say "i know you're going through a lot right now, so I'll keep some distance emotionally until you decide if / when you're ready for something with me"(if it seems appropriate) . that's one outcome anyway. it's up to you what you want to do. also if this relationship is a no go, you'll have other relationships in the future with better people, so this is just some sweet practice.

the issue with the online thing is that it was all very shallow. it kinda felt like people were saying whatever they wanted to make me happy. plus it's sometimes true that guys don't need much to get off, and it also felt like i was attractive to them just because i was a live, interactive female. it's a big thing for me.

also i thought i should mention that for some women bjs are more intimate. I'm that way personally because it's some guy's dick in my mouth (aka a very personal area) so maybe that could be a factor.