I guess I am what they call an incel and I've been working more and more on that field of my social skills. My biggest problem of all is getting phyisical. I never establish physical intimacy and therefore, I don't establish attraction. I never escalate with proper timing, I'm weak at evaluating responses and moving on from there. I'm also sometimes afraid of moving up too quickly and coming out as a pervert. I've recently got this program from a somewhat well known seduction coach in the country in which he offers the following method for physical escalation to get what he calls a "hollywood kiss" (it is not based on the MM but shares similarities):

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  1. Visual contact and initial conversation
  2. Shoulders, hands and arms (contextual or "accidental" light and rapid touches)
  3. Hands and arms (testing compliance for longer touches)
  4. Legs, belly and back (contextual or "accidental" more intimate touches while building comfort)
  5. Touching legs and torso (testing compliance with intentional intimate touches)
  6. Hair, face and neck (speaking close to her ear, playing with her hair with some excuse, for example. Already getting more sexual)
  7. Testing compliance for kissing (he suggests among other things that while you do the last step, you get just close enough for her to think that you're about to kiss her and then back off. He suggests doing that 3 times to build sexual tension so on the 4th she has no resistance)
  8. Kissing (He suggests that you should be the one to interrupt the first kiss to show self-control)

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The steps go on until sex, but I haven't watched the second part yet and I don't intend to until I manage to get a kiss.

The thing is, he suggests doing these things while you tell funny stories to entertain her and distract her conscious attention while you trigger unconscious sexual responses through physical touch. I could use some storytelling techniques to help me with that, but the most important thing I need right now is TIMING. I need to be able to read her responses and proceed accordingly and not just act awkwardly like I'm used to and waiting for her to lead the escalation for me.

I'd very much appreciate if somebody could show me how to do this and perhaps other methods which follow the same sort of idea, because I liked it and I think it's compatible with my personality.

Also, it's worth noting that I live in Brazil. I don't know how cultural differences work in this sort of thing but the impression I get is that physical escalation tends to happen more quickly here than in most places.