So, I think about women, I’ve had sex in my dreams about women, I want to date women and have sex with them, but I never get hard from watching women in porn, even though I do masturbate and get hard and cum to gay porn, and it’s the main thing stopping me from sleeping with them because I worry if I’ll be into them.

I’ve thought about going down on them instead because that sounds hot to me, but my dick doesn’t think so, and so they’ll have a good time without me worrying about whether my dick will work or not, but I’m scared she’ll wonder why I’m not getting hard. Is this normal? I’ve slept with attractive guys before and didn’t stay hard when I was fucking them, but I got hard after a blowjob, will the same thing happen if I sleep with women? I’m just really scared that it’ll be an embarrassing sexual experience and it makes me not have sex with women even if I try dating or kissing them. Any advice?

TL;DR I don’t get hard to women in porn but I want to have sex with women and I’m scared I won’t get hard